TOPIC: Dashedhopes' Approach Anxiety Log

Day 2
I signed the petition and understand how to execute the drills. I am really looking forward to starting the drills.

Day 3
www.okcupid.com/profile/dashedhopes117
I started my online dating account and will start to message all the girls that I can.

I know we weren't supposed to go ahead but I went and did the first drill anyway since all the first days were just signing up and doing online stuff.

So I went to mall nearby to ask girls for the time. At first I had quite a bit of anxiety and probably past 10 girls before I finally asked for the time. I was still feeling some anxiety but after awhile I started doing it a lot more comfortably and asked girls as soon as I saw them. I was also a bit afraid of asking another girl too quick and people would find me weird for asking multiple people for the time. Tomorrow I am going to be going to my school and try to ask 5 girls in 2 minutes without passing any girls. Overall, I found the drill pretty easy and extremely fun. Can't wait till tomorrow!

Day 5
Hey guys. Today I was supposed to go up to 5 girls in the span of two minutes and ask for the time. Like the day before this was incredibly easy. So i did this with no problem and decided that I would try the next days drills a couple hours later because I didn't think it would be a problem if the last drill was easy. So after class, the gym and a little bit of studying I decided to do the directions drill.
So the drill was to ask for the time, leave. Time, directions, leave. Then time, directions, ask if they've been there. At first I was a little hesitant but I was able to start doing it. I did it with ease but some girls I didn't ask as i passed them. I addressed this immediately and made sure that every single girl(s) that I saw i would ask them. I did this and felt good. I made sure to do enough repetitions that I was completely comforatable with the drill.

Something to note was that I am finding this incredibly fun and enjoyable. After a couple girls I start to get some adrenaline and feel the momentum and I feel like I can do anything. Just one question however, I know it said that we shouldn't be skipping stuff but is it okay to go ahead and not wait till the next day to do the next drill?

Can't wait till next day's exercise.

Cheers!~

Hey.
Today I went to school and before going to the gym I did my drills and I was able to really get the ball going and just keep asking girls everytime I saw one. Even at first right when I got outside my door I got on the bus and the first girl that I saw on the bus I asked her for the time. I started to feel it was getting repetative and easy. So I did the drill and did it with almost zero problems. I even noticed that some questions would also lead to other things so sometimes the conversation would go even longer but I stuck to the drill and just left after asking my questions.
After the gym I felt ambitious and I tried doing the next day drills because I didn't think it would hurt if I didn't have anything else to do. The same thing happened and I got some funny responses when I asked if they liked it. I could already feel that they thought I was hitting on them. I felt like I could even do the the next drill but I feel like sometime inbetween is required before I go again so I am going to wait till the next day for the next drill.

Thanks!

DAY
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Leave
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Did you like it?, Leave

So at first I went to the grocery store with a friend and this didn't go well. I started to see the people that I already asked and I don't know if this is supposed to be part of the drill but it gave me anxiety. I was able to do about six girls but then some of those people kept passing by.

Later on I went to the mall, I wanted to redeem myself. I made sure that I went to every girl I saw whether they were in store, smoking, in group it didn't matter. I was able to do it this time regardless of responses. However, tomorrow I am planning on just doing it one more time at school because I didn't feel like I did the drill as well as I could've. Besides, I already got ahead from the drills before when I did two in one day. I hope that doing multiple drills doesn't hurt my progress but I am just making sure that I am doing them effectively. If tomorrow goes well I am going to take a stab at the next day's drill.

DAY
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Leave
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Did you like it?, Leave

Ok so this time I made sure that I was going to do this one successfully. I went to the mall and did it up without any problems. I did encounter something really funny though. As much as I try and stay away from people that I've already talked to one person over heard me doing the exact same thing to someone else and as soon as I walked out of the store she said, "What are you doing?" and she asked if it was a dare haha. I told her what I was doing and she kind of just nodded and didn't really say much. Anyway that was interesting. Tomorrow I am planning to go to the gym then class then do my drills. We'll see how I do.

peace!

Hey!
So today I had to ask about movies and for whatever reason I didn't feel comfortable doing this one at first. I went to the mall like I usually do, did a couple but didn't want to do any more. For whatever the reason I just left. However I wanted to finish them so I went back to the mall, this time I was able to finish the drill with no problem by just committing to the drill.

One thing I am going to need to start doing more often is changing to my university campus more often because people in the mall are starting to recognize me more often and it's getting weirder and harder for me to do my drills.

Anyways.. Talk to you tomorrow and wish me luck !

So this day was a little easier. Asking for the cellphones and then asking how they liked it seemed a lot more natural. I really need to stress getting to that first girl and just keep going. I find it the hardest to do the drills when there are a lot of people so I am going to address this and do it in between classes to really test my anxiety. Today, I find is going to be really weird asking about candles just because the movie questions it's unnatural. However, I'm going to tackle these types of days with power.

Wish me luck

Peace~!

Ok so, today was really cool. Most of the responses that I got were super nice and genuine and each person was generally veryy supportive of finding me candles. They all wanted me to have a good date. Girls after they realize that I'm not available and that I'm not hitting on them you see a whole different side of them that isn't hidden and superficial that I really enjoy about girls after you meet them. I swept through these drills unlike the movie theater ones because I felt the responses I got were always very similar and nice. i even asked a girl that was smoking who was super happy for me and told me exactly where to go to find some nice candles.

The other day when I was asking for directions I forgot to mention in this thread that I met a super cool french girl that was super curious as to what I was doing. She told me that she didn't know the place I was talking about because she's an exchange student. I was curious so I asked where she was from and she said France. This was awesome cause I love speaking french despite not being completely fluent but we started having a conversation in french. I really wanted to get her number but I had that anxiety again or a conflict of interest thinking I would be breaking some rule of GLL. This was stupid cause I feel like even if Im not focusing on getting laid I should be able to get some really cool girl's number to be friends. Maybe I'm a pussy for just wanting to be her friend or a pussy for not getting her number but I am in the AA program and I'm addressing it. The next cute french girl I meet or see, I'm going balls to the wall.

Wish me luck for tomorrow peace!

Sorry, I've been really sick with this stupid cold.. With work school and friends I haven't been able to do the drills for the past 2-3 days but I am going to try really hard to do my drills when I go to school because I need to stay on track regardless of midterms. I want to stay committed to this so I'll be killing it later.
Thanks~

Keep it up! i missed today too, lets go in strong next days!