TOPIC: (One of the) Oldest Loser(s) Here (Intro/AA Log/Pics)

Gentlemen,

I've wanted to introduce myself for a while now.  I didn't feel the need to post an intro or pictures, since I'm fairly confident I have an acceptable look and style for banging above-average looking girls (feel free to comment).

But as I'm now entering the "weirder" drills with Week 3 and beyond, I want to have my pictures up as reference in case I run into difficulty and need advice/encouragement, etc.

(Like just in case some chick I approach at the mall, oh I don't know, tries to beat me up).

So, I'm like old and shit--  next month I  turn 49.

I don't consider myself your typical American guy that age. I'd say I have something of a mid-30's kind of vibe and look and a "Bohemian" kind of lifestyle. Which is fortunate because I'm generally NOT attracted to women I'm "supposed" to be with agewise.

That said, I don't want to look good "for a guy may age"- I want to have a good appearance/style, period

Before starting the AA Program, I had worked on approaching on my own and at times I've gotten receptive reactions from girls as young as 18.

I couldn't approach consistently however, and a bad reaction from approaching had the power to utterly deflate my spirits and make me feel intense embarrassment. So I realized this program is just the thing I need and decided to make the committment to see it through.

After having completed the first 2 1/2 weeks of the program to date (over a long period, and repeating many drills along the way), I can truly say,

Chris, you deserve to be nominated for a fucking Nobel Peace Prize for this.

It seems each time I go out, something unique and unexpected will happen, or I'll learn some valuable lesson.

I intend to use this log to report on the things that really stood out.

Just one example of something memorable...

...after high-fiving girls at the mall on a Friday night, walking back to my car through the poorly-lit parking lot, I saw a girl coming my way. I decided I was going to randomly high-five her just for the hell of it, since I had finished the required drills.

This girl was NOT amused by being high-fived in this situation....but then... immediately after a car pulls up next to me... the front window rolls down...uh, oh, this can't be good I'm thinking... and inside it's two pretty young girls (legal teenagers) all smiles with their hands up ASKING ME TO HIGH-FIVE THEM TOO!

Important thing I've observed:

Out of by now hundreds of girls approached...

Only ONE girl got bitchy and said "how come you're asking ME the time when there's SO MANY other people around you could have asked" 

only ONE girl got bitchy and said, "you have a watch on, why are you asking the time!!"

So, whereas in the past a bad reaction would cause me to feel wounded, it's now becoming clear that a bad reaction on her part means SHE is flawed/damaged goods.

(Not to say it isn't scary as HELL at times going up to way younger girls in the food court as a guy my age; a lot of the goofy things in the program are WAY easier to pull off/get away with when you're a younger guy, trust me).

And yea, I've creeped out tons of girls. The way I see it women and men want the same basic thing. So in order for us to get what we BOTH want, so too will women have to learn to deal with some temporary discomfort of an undesired approach. If they get creeped out it's good practice for them too.

So let the social experiment- guy pushing 50 hitting on barely legal girls- begin...or rather, continue.

Maybe I can be an inspiration to other older guys that there is no shame in hitting on way younger girls. 

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My goal with women is to develop the repeatable skill where, let's say I'm starting from zero women in my life-- I am able to venture out any Friday or Saturday afternoon with a reasonable chance to have female companionship (with a good chance at sex) lined up that day or night with a normal-weight, attractive woman with good style in her 20's. Then to retain some along the way in open relationships or sex buddies. I feel confident I can accomplish this.

The way I see it women and men want the same basic thing. So in order for us to get what we BOTH want, so too will women have to learn to deal with some temporary discomfort of an undesired approach. If they get creeped out it's good practice for them too.

Such truth..

Great insight from your experiences thus far, cheers.

I would of honestly guessed you were in your mid-30's, that's pretty incredible.

Did you decide to get your ear pierced or is that an old picture of you testing it out?

Did you decide to get your ear pierced or is that an old picture of you testing it out?

I was testing it in that pic, from a couple weeks back. I decided I'm gonna get it soon 

Thanks for reading

I'm 54 geez lol anyhow, it's funny with the younger women there are definitely 20 somethings that like older guys I used to eat lunch at a bar with a married 25 yo bartender and we always chatted pretty friendly and one day she said I should meet her at xyz for margarita's and I'm like wtf you're married.  Next thing I know she's divorced and with another guy.

bud you look good as fuck for 49. honestly im 20 and you'd probably have an easier time with girls my age than me. you look like a pimp man if anything holds you back it's not age/appearance

Shalom

You definitely look like you're in your thirties, would not have guessed 49. Great style too

this is a great topic...please keep us up to date.

I have been slowly working my way through the drills, just haven't been posting them.
The following are ones I have notes/ write-ups for,

Week 3
Day 17 ABC's
Day 18 Do you like my shirt
Day 19 Justin bieber haircut
Day 20 where's the bathroom
Day 21 arm squeeze
Day 17 ABC's (repeated this day, since found it the most difficult)

Week 4
Day 22 suspenders
Day 23 Sesame Street
Day 24 Birthday

Day 25
What's for lunch

Found myself dealing with an angry boyfriend, posted about it here

Did 8 more reps at mall this past Saturday. This time I figured out how to make the lines flow, so asking the same thing over and over doesn't come off so weird

Biggest anxiety at this point is "getting approached by security" and "being overheard by others". I notice the instructions don't say anything about "making sure bystanders are in earshot" but I am trying to push my comfort zone, in terms of difficult situations, others around, etc. The actual approach to the girl is the easy part.

The more interesting thing is the situations I'm still too intimidated to approach the girl. For instance, I spotted a hot cutie in checkout line of a Clothes store...BUT other shoppers were RIGHT NEXT to her in line...AND she was with two friends, one of them male. I just couldn't do it. I have forced myself to do approaches on girls standing in line at the Starbucks kiosk with others around. I can do it sometimes.

Day 26
Who's your daddy.

Been dreading this one. We'll see how it goes.

Just got back...ok, this one's hard

They don't let me finish asking 3 times.

Approached several more girls who said, "no I don't want to" after just saying "we're going to play a game"

Approached about 7 girls total, most walked away after opening line-- actually only got to attempt the drill with 2

The "best" attempt went like this (in supermarket aisle):

Me: hey, so we're going to play a game
her: uh, ok

Me: it's called, who's your daddy and what does he do
Ready?
-Who's your daddy and what does he do (1st time asking)

her: uh, no I'm not doing this
Me: We're gonna play a game,

her: (backing up) no we're not

Me: its called who's your daddy and what does he do
Ready? -who's your daddy and what does he do.. (2nd time asking)

her: (still backing away and looking totally freaked out) no, I'm not doing this

Me: we're gonna play a game, its called who's your...

Her: (seeing someone she knows looking relieved she's been rescued) Hey chelsea!!!

Me: (walking away) take it easy

Oh yea, the other one of the 2 attempts resulted in another pissed off redneck boyfriend showing up and getting aggressive/confrontational.

I can't say I enjoy freaking out girls or that I'm having fun with this.
I'm finding this one quite unpleasant in fact.

Going to have to meditate on it, go back and try it again.

Any advice how to get through this one?

(PS I decided, even though I technically didn't make it all the way through, I'm still going to count the 2 above approaches. I still got massive exposure therapy )