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Hello fellow losers,
I have been on the site for long (4 + yrs) but postes sparingly.
I am 28 yo, slightly overweight, banged around 30 girls so far (from cold approach, dating sites, club, sometimes social circle), I live in Europe and I work as a doctor (I am in the second yr of Psychiatry residency). I make around 1600 euros per month.
Despite being a soon to be psychiatrist, I also have msyelf been thru depression and am currently taking medications. I used to take SSRI's, couldn't come, so I switched to Mirtazapine and I am less depressed plus can cum freely.
I've got the same old bucket list of (hardcore) self improvers
1)Know I can get laid - then find a good one
2)make passive money so that I can
5)leave medicine FOREVER
Plus I would like to get really good and deep in meditation, and maybe get a degree in philosophy and writing about that professionally.
I've half assed all of this, and feel somehow stuck
I deep down know that getting girls is just a phase - still I get annoyed every time I go to a club and KNOW I could do better and let many oportunities pass
I do know that a part of the desire of making the online biz is to move abroad to get laid more (I usually get more results when away from home)
Getting ripped is the same
What I mean, although I deep down feel Getting laid is not that important, it still dominates a lot of my decision making. I know I probably will need to experience success in it to feel peace.
Still, on the other hand I feel I am not allowed to dedicate time to girls unless I feel secure in my work. And I do not, as I want to leave medicine.
At the end of the day, I don't know how to prioritize, at all.
How do you guys prioritize and make a committment?
"A dream without a plan, is just a wish" Chris GLL
IMO this is one of the most difficult decisions every guy has to make:
Which comes first, pussy or financial freedom?
Most guys wan't BOTH very badly. But unfortunately no one can tell you what you should do. Only YOU know which one is more urgent for you. Personally, I was lucky enough to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I needed pussy first. Most guys aren't that lucky, and it's a struggle to pick one or the other. You COULD work on both, but frankly I think that's too much for the vast majority of guys. You'll end up doing both of them poorly.
No one can tell you what you want. You're gonna have to look deep inside yourself and make a decision.
Count: 108 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
1. Net business profit $2000/month (3 months in a row)
2. Quit nicotine
I'm one of those guys who was trying to do both or more at one time. I graduated college and went back to living with parents while working with them, dunno how my mom persuaded me, most likely guilt trip (Asian parents haha), but I was pretty dumb fresh out of college so I listened. That's when I thought maybe I could build a couple of passive income to just pay rent and for food on my own to have more time to hit on girls, then I meet other young guys who were all in on financial and had huge goals so I caught on that train and wanted more than to just pay rent and food while putting pussy to the side (I didn't get enough in college obviously so this really affected financial success). Also I tried to create multiple streams all at once.
If you decide money, you should always finish one all the way to the very end before you jump on to another, juggling multiple shit all at once isn't efficient as you think and causes total burn out, maybe a spiral of depression for awhile. Business is a beast of its own and you need to be all in it, not just half ass it.
So this is the downfall I needed though to learn to listen, understand, and get back on my feet. A huge total lessons to be learned.
Imma just chase pussy for awhile prolly +2-3 years like Chris recommends, I've been really happy lately because of this decision
Yeah man, I feel you
I also thought "I can build financial freedom" so I can have time to hit on girls...Still I know that this is a bit of a pipe dream, as it's not as passive income is gonna happen in 1 year.
My "problem" is that I also don't truly like my job + don't like my city's social scene. Add to this that I am 28yo, so I feel the pressure of"making something of myself" .
I am in doubt it leaving it all, move to a new city - chase pussy, or postpone pussy
I also don't totally know if maybe, if I did get more pussy, I'd start to like my own city.
Thanks for the perspective and sorry for late reply
"A dream without a plan, is just a wish" Chris GLL
I agree with BiB and Benjiboi ive been here about as long and found this site while in college. Had a little success, when i found the truth from this site about women, and decide i could do both. I did fine for a while but the want to get this girl stuff handle and the pressure to finish school just completely burned me out, like Benjiboi said, and i completely demolished me for a time. Slowly getting it back together but focussing on one thing at a time will save you from alot of heartache and pain.
Advice wise im not prone to give it unless i really know how it might turn out but if i had a second chance at it i would have finished school because of how much i already invested in to it. Get it done and have that base then go on to chicks. But thats just hindsight.
"It is better to nut and lose a girl, than to never nut at all."
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