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This is an issue that I've needed to give some perspective on for a awhile. I think it will help certain guys make sense of some things. I'll try to cover it as concisely as possible, all you need is a basic explanation to understand it and tweak your approach, if need-be.
Everyone has a pretty good idea of "Screening Game: What is Screening?" where you 'screen' girls with physical advances to see if they are sexually available.
Some guys get it quickly, but some guys- in an effort to embrace and develop social courage, may misunderstand the dynamic of the situation.
Obviously, Scotty and I push aggressive (sometimes extreme) behavior at all levels. About 10 of the main discussions on GLL remind you 'it's better to be too aggressive than too passive'. We talk about quick, unapologetic physical screening from the start. The coming perspective doesn't change that, it should give it context however.
Okay.
What I'm seeing from some guys is- full on, somewhat unnecessary escalation relative to their logistics.
Let me explain.
When you are hitting on girls you should have a game plan.
Without getting into every scenario or specifics, there's 2 main game plans to have-
A lot of guys here are doing daytime approaches, they don't necessarily have a planned spot to take women (which is fine). Over half the time when I was talking to girls as a regular part of my day, I didn't have a spot around the corner to take them.
In that case, the game plan should be to screen, make small talk and take their number and leave. A little [physical escalation/sexual innuendo] goes a long way during the day. Touch the chick a few times and maybe throw some flirting in there.
What you don't have to do is keep touching her over-and-over, if you DON'T have a place to take her.
That's escalation, you don't really need to do that.
In fact, if you don't have a planned spot to take her or a game plan to fuck her, it's kinda weird to keep touching the girl over-and-over-and-over. It's certainly not a "bad" thing, I've done that more times than I can remember, it helped me develop social courage and kill my nice guy issues. It just usually make more sense to have a specific game plan, rather than just "take it as far as possible" (if you DON'T have a place to take her).
Without getting too mPUALoser on you, I want to separate screening from escalation. They are related, but not quite the same thing. Escalation is something you should be doing if you game plan involves banging the girl within the hour. If you need specifics on escalation- Get Laid: Physical Escalation.
Screening is just a few physical advances to determine if she's sexually available.
Escalation is several physical advances that will determine if she's sexually available and DTF within the hour. (it will also turn her on)
Here's some examples to separate the two
Touch her hand= screening, escalation
Touch her elbow= screening, escalation
Touch her wrist= screening, escalation
Touch her arm= screening, escalation
Hold her hand= screening, escalation
Brush her hair= screening, escalation
Slap her ass= escalation (day) - screening, escalation (night)
Put your hand on her waistline = escalation (day) - screening, escalation (night)
Play with her hair= escalation
Kiss her = escalation
Grab her ass= escalation
Grab her breasts = escalation
Rip off her pants = escalation
Rip off your pants = escalation
Put your dick in her mouth = beyond escalation
The basic point is-
In general, when you are out during the day, unless you have a place to take her that's 10 minutes or less away from you- your game plan should be screening, taking her number.
At night, you can usually sneak off somewhere, even if you don't have a place 10 minutes or less from you- your game plan should be screening, escalation.
I want to say that I'm super proud of a lot of guys here. They are challenging themselves and BRINGING IT! Touching girls when they want, how they want. DON'T LOSE THAT!!!! I wanted to offer context to "how much you need to do" when you go out, especially during the day.
If you don't have a place to take a girl, take their number. There's no point in touching a girl that likes you over-and-over-and-over if you can't get laid within the hour.
If you have nearby logistics, ESCALATE, early and often.
playing w/ hair can definitely be a nice tardemark for screening that pussy as well....followed by a nice lil tug of her hair
Huh, playing with hair is escalation and not screening?
unless if it's the very first thing you do, usually not
if you get to the point where you are playing with the girl's hair (especially in board day light)... you should be thinking about where to take her, rather than taking a phone #
**during...
unless if it's the very first thing you do, usually not
if you get to the point where you are playing with the girl's hair (especially in board day light)... you should be thinking about where to take her, rather than taking a phone #
**during the day
the main thing here, isn't so much which action is screening-which is escalation...
dont worry about that too much
the main thing is that guys aren't talking and touching a girl for 40minutes during the day and walking away with a phone number....
the main thing here, isn't so much which action is screening-which is escalation...
dont worry about that too much
the main thing is that guys aren't talking and touching a girl for 40minutes during the day and walking away with a phone number. or thinking that you have to grope/touch the chick over-and-over-and-over to find out if she's available.
yeah bro, that's success in a nutshell, im seeing it more and more everyday. more on the specific of game plans and execution later.. but you got the idea.
ssk, i think you always run the chance of being overly aggressive....but you cant worry about that...its best to always find out how far u can push the limits.......gives u a really good gauge of how dtf she is
Yes and no.. and its important that I give this perspective to this. It's usually not worth bringing all the stupid theory in.
If your game plan is "get her number" -- you can be too aggressive by escalating her (for example: pushing her up...
Yes and no.. and its important that I give this perspective to this. It's usually not worth bringing all the stupid theory in.
If your game plan is "get her number" -- you can be too aggressive by escalating her (for example: pushing her up against a wall, making out with her and NOT finishing [having sex with her]) and asking for a phone number. She's in the moment and wants it.. give it to her, don't take a number. She may not be available in 24hours, if she's mainly looking for a BF (or some other unavailable situation) and her logical mind can tell her something like "that guy is just going to fuck me" "that guy is a player"... whereas, when you had her in the moment-- she would have done ANYTHING.
If your game plan is "have sex with her"-- you can't be too aggressive. You can only do some stuff too early. For example: before talking to her, or making eye contact, you grab her and rip off her shirt. It makes her like a crude slut... The girl might have been DTF, but they do take more time (when sober) to get horny and emotionally into the experience.
This-- Uh oh, Am I being too aggressive? thing.. DOES NOT apply to the average guy out there. 90% of guys aren't talking to any girls whatsoever.. 9% are talking to girls with the safest shit possible. There's only 1% that being aggressive and every once in a while will move too fast.
As it applies to you, personally- if your plan is to take phone numbers, during the day, screen, escalate a little bit... but don't full on escalate if you aren't going to finish the job there. I just prefer to get IN and OUT if I'm not going anywhere with it at the time. Maybe it leaves "mystery" or her wanting more... you can communicate that you're looking for sex with your presence (style) and just a some touching during the day... you don't need to full on escalate and grab titties/finger the girl through her jeans.. this might sound like 'safe game' but remember how far beyond the 'average' guy you are
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