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Especially in the night scene - sexual attraction is largely based on physical attraction - not "how smooth you are".
As long as you don't appear completely unconfident, you won't scare away the chicks that consider you attractive.
In fact, if you are significantly better looking than the girl, any timidness may come off as 'cute'.
There will be some "maybe I'll fuck you" girls and it's your decision on how much time you want to invest to get a clear verdict.
I say 15 minutes max. (even for less experienced guys)
Usually touching them a couple of times forces them in or out long before.
Most girls already know if they like you (let alone decide if they are going to spread their legs for you) within 20 seconds.
Almost all girls know IMMEDIATELY when you touch them.
I can't emphasize the importance of 'physical screening' enough at night, absolutely nothing is better for Getting Laid and finding the DTF chicks.
If a girl seems to like you but won't leave the place [or go for a walk/sit down] with you, my suggestion is to take her phone number, go talk to other girls (let her see this), and shoot her a text around closing time to see what her deal is.
At close, sometimes the girl is more drunk and looking to hook up, she may invite you to a party (doesn't mean shit) but usually nothing has changed because she wasn't available that night in the first place.
You'll "lose" some of these "maybe" girls but you'll lose a lot more other girls by investing too much time in any one girl and not interviewing other candidates for the job.
Most guys know this, but they still cling to any girl that 'somewhat' likes them.
It's a security and validation thing and it's something that you'll slowly let go of.
Eventually you'll come to dislike the friendly girls that waste your time more than the bitchy girls that blow you off right away.
#5 Chris Looks Like a Total Fucking Creep a Couple Times a Night
The guys that Get Laid (via cold approach) the most aren't hardened sociopaths that are immune from social pressure, they just aren't afraid to put themselves out there and look like a creep a few times a night.
Keep in mind, this is the "guru" you are learning from.
I look like total creep sometimes -
At the same time I can also get chicks out of the bar and into my car within ~15-30 minutes -
Go be a creep.
You have my permission encouragement.
If you are trying to Get Laid -
Sometimes you'll be that creep.
Sometimes you'll be that sexy "spontaneous" guy.
It is often a matter of her availably. Nothing you can control.
#6 The Girl You Are Talking To Has Probably Already Fucked a Guy Uglier Than You
Chances are, if you are talking to an emotionally healthy girl that doesn't have negative views of casual sex (most girls at bars) - she has already slept with a guy that is either uglier than you are or not as cool as you are.
The exception to this can be younger girls (18-19) who are, by default - less experienced.
Teenage girls are generally looking to date the best looking guy they can get until their preferences change from "boy sexy" to "man sexy".
If you have made the effort to get down to 7-8% body fat (so you have distinct facial features) and put on current, cool clothing that fits you and made yourself as tall as possible -
Your sex appeal is above of the average guy.
You meet the 'looks threshold' of most girls.
Even if just slightly above - although your looks may not win over most girls, you won't be disqualified by most girls for a lack of sex appeal.
Stop worrying so much about rejection.
If you are above-average looking, you are being "rejected" by a girl who has already slept with a guy that isn't as good looking as you are.
You are getting "rejected" because she is NOT AVAILABLE at the time.
While this isn't always true, most girls older than 21 have slept with at least one average/below average looking guy. Sometimes a one-night stand, but sometimes a lengthy relationship.
Very few girls, including the hottest girls, have only hooked up with guys that are equal or better looking than they are.
If you are 'above-average' looking, you aren't losing most girls because you aren't good looking enough.
If your sex appeal is below-average and you have not taken the steps to look better than the average guy, then -
Yes, you are losing girls for a lack of sex appeal.
It is my opinion that the VAST MAJORITY of guys can exceed the 'average guy' threshold in sex appeal (looks, style).
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