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As a "self-improvement guru" (that's what I told the IRS I am), I'm always supposed encourage guys to be the best they can be (MAX OUT).
Reach for the stars.
Big dream.
Be your very best self.
While that is certainly ideal, one of my slight knocks on just about all self-improvement communities is that it's often slightly exaggerated just how good you need to be.
At some point it's less about "learning", "improving" or "working on yourself" and simply just enjoying yourself (and repeating the benefits of your hard work). The positive experiences alone will lead to improvements.
Truth is, at least when it comes to nailing a lot of HOT girls, you just need to have 'above-average' fundamentals.
That means-
You need to be a decent looking guy, with above-average sex appeal (looks & style) who can talk to women and cool enough to be seen with/meet her friends.
And This is just with the hotter girls. You don't have to have all these things together for girls that don't have these attributes either.
The interesting thing is - very few guys are above-average in all these categories.
In fact, it's very rare.
Even if you aren't "Top 10%" in any ONE category, if you are above-average in all of them, you easily qualify as a Top 10% guy.
Like I said, it's pretty rare.
Most guys are skinny-fat (or slightly overweight), dress like they haven't had sex in years and can't talk to girls.
0 for 3.
Some guys have 1 of these attributes.
Few guys have more than 1.
As I explain a bit in this post - there a lot of guys that are "elite" but they don't believe it, so they behave like they aren't and don't have a solid sense of entitlement. The result is underachievement.
I've been there. Perhaps that was my biggest problem.
Elite guy on paper, average self-esteem.
I want you to give some consideration to that.
Maybe it's time to start getting loads of pussy instead of improving yourself.
(you'll improve yourself in the process)
That was one of the main reasons you wanted to improve yourself in the first place.
Myth-
"You have to be a 10, to get a 10!"
A few months ago, on a different community, an enthusiastic guy was explaining what Good Looking Loser was all about (sorry no link).
He made some great points but he somewhat misrepresented our views on this issue.
He said (something to the effect of)-
"Good Looking Loser knows - to get the 10's, you got to be a 10."
I appreciate the enthusiasm but that's not quite true.
You don't have to be a "10" to nail the hottest girls.
You need to be above-average.
(so few guys are above-average at the ALL of mentioned fundamentals, so arguably a guy who is - is a "10 or a top 10% guy")
The vast majority of my friends (there are very few) that sleep with 20-25 quality girls a year are hardly "10's", some of them are average in some (usually just one) area of their fundamentals.
(again it's usually just ONE of these)
Being a "10" or an "elite guy" plays a greater factor in retaining hot fuckbuddies and relationships, but not in having a quick fling with a hot chick that is looking for just that.
Trust me on this.
(Okay Chris...)
When I was getting the most results (and dedicating the the most time to) with hot girls, I had no job, had a little more body fat an I'd like and didn't have "total" social freedom.
(read my life story)
When Scotty was plowing 2 or 3 girls a week, he was living at home and hardly concerned about having a "career".
What we were is-
Above-average.
I was "hotter" in my early 20's but I was too scared to hit on girls.
"Good Looking Loser" is a reference to that period
I'm not as cute now but I'm able to hit on girls so I can get them.
I don't want you to think that I'm trying to pretend I'm the 'average guy' I'm not, far from.
Reach for the stars but realize that above-average will do, at least in terms of having a great sex life with quality women.
So Now What?
Hopefully reading this (and hopefully coming to believe it) will be a relief.
You don't have to be Superman.
In fact, Superman probably spends too much time being/staying Superman.
If you are average or below with one of your fundementals (looks, style, social freedom)- work on that.
In fact, shoot to MAX that out.
If it's your weakness, try to make it your strength.
Obsess over it. Work on it EVERY DAY. Make it your #1 goal and #1 priority.
Make sure you define success before you chase it.
Maybe it will become your strength, maybe not.
Regardless.
If it's above-average, you'll be just fine.
You just need to believe it.
Hey Chris this is a great topic.Funny how things work out i just recently had this realization this week. While I do shoot for the stars today and right now, I am still a regular(but far from average) guy but at least I can and deserve to enjoy...
Hey Chris this is a great topic.Funny how things work out i just recently had this realization this week. While I do shoot for the stars today and right now, I am still a regular(but far from average) guy but at least I can and deserve to enjoy the process and not only enjoy the process, but enjoy it with some pretty pussy!!!!!
Right now my logistics may not be the greatest...But i've realized that when i go out....So long as i embrace the fact that I am not like 95% of the average joes on the street...and screen a DTF chick, chances are we'll find a place to fuck. Her place, or maybe a hotel....who knows but I am starting to see that chicks who are DTF usually respond pretty positively when in the prescense of an above average dude,who knows what he wants....her
oh yeah- this def. applies to you, from what I know of you from the forum.
and you are right- "enjoy the process" that is def. worth mentioning, I think most guys can do this once they believe that "above-average" works and is enough to to get...
oh yeah- this def. applies to you, from what I know of you from the forum.
and you are right- "enjoy the process" that is def. worth mentioning, I think most guys can do this once they believe that "above-average" works and is enough to to get plenty of hotties in bed. It's mainly the guys that are always looking to "get better" that burnout and have a shaky sense of entitlement
Question - you said your friend was pulling while living at home? How does that work? I'm between places now and frequently traveling and trying to figure out the logistics of pulling when I don't have a steady place. An article on this would be...
Question - you said your friend was pulling while living at home? How does that work? I'm between places now and frequently traveling and trying to figure out the logistics of pulling when I don't have a steady place. An article on this would be highly appreciated.
I am definitely above average in all but I still have a hard time getting laid. Looks is fine for me (I'm 6.3, 190-195 pounds, 9 % bf, tanned) When I go to a bar, I am definitely in the top 10-15% My style is definitely top 10%. I can go up to...
I am definitely above average in all but I still have a hard time getting laid. Looks is fine for me (I'm 6.3, 190-195 pounds, 9 % bf, tanned) When I go to a bar, I am definitely in the top 10-15% My style is definitely top 10%. I can go up to most girls and chat them up and I defiantly have a cool vibe and crack jokes. However, one thing I believe is holding me back (which I cannot change much) is my facial features (big ears, no jawline, slightly asymmetrical). I have definitely lowered my standards but still find a lot of trouble. This has been the worst summer for me by far in terms of getting laid. I'm not sure what else I can do. I have definitely contemplated just settling for average girl because cute girls, above average and hot ones turn me down quite frequently and the rejection does sting the self-confidence.
So true... if only Brad Pitt-like guys (= guys with max looks, money and status) were getting laid often, then I wouldn't have had quite a lot of (more than decent) opportunities during the last year... I lack the killer instinct and balls to...
So true... if only Brad Pitt-like guys (= guys with max looks, money and status) were getting laid often, then I wouldn't have had quite a lot of (more than decent) opportunities during the last year... I lack the killer instinct and balls to make it happen, but that's definitely possible. And I'm working on it right now. I feel like I'm above average in looks, and style - and by that I mean that I take care of myself more than most guys, I dress better than a lot of them even though I'm not a fashion model at all and "many" guys outstyle me (if that's a word) (that means that I notice them a lot, they're not that many in reality), and even though my social freedom greatly varies it's at least average, not below. I'm not aiming at the supermodels (yet), just above-average girls (just a question... how many normal guys really have an above-average looking gf or bang above-average girls anyway ? Not much IMO), so that's largely enough.
Also, on the side, I'm having more and more of a high self-esteem, complete opposite from my inferiority complex from years ago, and I'm getting frustrated voluntarily from no-fap :p. So the pussy shouldn't be long to be there. Plus I'm gonna have my best friend to motivate me soon.
yeah its def. a factor, I'll be mentioning that in my extend version of Retention, girls (if they have other smaller fuckbuddies) literally can't feel them if your inside them 2x a week.
so ive been told, several times
http://www.goodlookingloser...
yeah its def. a factor, I'll be mentioning that in my extend version of Retention, girls (if they have other smaller fuckbuddies) literally can't feel them if your inside them 2x a week.
so ive been told, several times
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/11/16/retention-fuck-buddies/
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
To anyone reading this, follow through, read this material, APPLY this material, and enjoy life.
Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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