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Guys that Get Laid a lot aren't smooth most of the time because...
For one -
When a heterosexual male and female who have never met each other have their first interaction, neither one of them is 100% TOTALLY comfortable. Social and sexual tension is completely normal - even if you have a high tolerance to it.
The net result of this PIECE OF COMMON SENSE are interactions that don't always go smoothly.
For two -
It takes TWO to be smooth.
The guy AND THE GIRL.
Despite popular thought, held by both the mainstream and the seduction community, just because you are comfortable, doesn't mean the girl is automatically going to be comfortable.
IT IS NOT TRUE.
If the girl is not available, she will usually not "be smooth" nor let you "be smooth". An unavailable girl (most girls) will be somewhat cold, standoffish and non-engaging. Some sweeter girls will be very nice, but resist when you introduce physical contact.
The smoothest guy in the world is not going to look particularly smooth if he is talking to a girl who is not interested. She won't respond well to his "game". She might not be rude, but there's hardly going to be any fireworks or magic.
And The opposite can also be true -
Many interested girls GET NERVOUS when they like a guy.
Interested girls can get shy because they don't want to "mess up".
Even the hot ones.
Especially the less experienced girls. Especially when they aren't wearing as much makeup as they wish for the moment. Especially when they are alone, without the social support of their friends who they usually rely on approval/disapproval from.
Jesus, I've seen this a million times and you will too if you have a edgy/masculine appearance as we suggest.
But many guys mistake this for disinterest, which it certainly can be in some cases.
Both girls who ARE INTERESTED and AREN'T INTERESTED may respond less than positively.
Their 'not super positive' reaction can make an otherwise "smooth guy", react not-so-smoothly at times.
The whole "the alpha male isn't ever reactive" is a concept, not a reality. It is human instinct to react according to stimulus - the key is to recover or shake it off.
So even when you lose your approach anxiety - you can't expect smooth interactions.
Not even from the girls that are interested in you.
Natural chemistry and the girl's personality/availability is a major factor in how the interaction goes. "Smoothness" is not all on you.
This is the example of "how it's done" that most guys get.
Be smooth and hope the girl does something.
Although most guys are at their best when they are sloppy and drunk and around similarly sloppy intoxicated girls, they still believe that "smoothness" is the key to getting in a girl's pants.
Those unfortunate souls who get lost in the seduction community have the same mentality that it is their sole responsibility to make girls "like" them. They believe that it is their duty to be smooth with routines/lines/body language and always their fault when their "game" doesn't make the girl spread her pussy (or ass cheeks).
#DOS - THEY ARE SCARED AND "SAFE GAME" (TRYING TO BE SMOOTH) IS APPEALING
The entire smooth persona might look good on camera but ultimately is simply a wonderful excuse to play it safe in real life.
In reality, being smooth is a tactic to avoid rejection.
Not to Get Laid.
I did that for years.
Since it's nearly impossible to be smooth and aggressive, nearly all guys pick "try to be smooth" because it's much safer and the chances of getting a bad reaction beyond a disinterested look is quite low.
In reality, guys who consciously try to be smooth play "not to lose" and they literally stand there trying to pick the correct words in order to "not fuck up".
Keeping a dead conversation going and hoping for the right opportunity to "do something" is the goal.
The moment never comes but at least nothing bad happened.
Killer Instinct (advanced social freedom/aggressiveness) is a MUCH BIGGER factor in whether you hit that pussy. Not smoothness.
Being smooth is icing on the cake and although certainly part of your experience/confidence, the 'smoothness' of an interaction is also an indicator of natural chemistry, an open window and the girl's personality.
You can only do so much.
Trying to be smooth is hardly worth your time and a huge diversion from being aggressive.
Be aggressive - you'll Get Laid.
Be smooth - you'll avoid rejection.
It's up to you.
Guys that Get Laid a lot ARE NOT ALWAYS SMOOTH.
So you now have permission to NOT BE SMOOTH.
You will Get Laid being clumsy and sloppy just as much.
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