Getting Laid is a Numbers Game

Like I mentioned in "Relax, You'll Eventually Get Laid," getting laid is simply a numbers game.

This is an extension to that post.

Your chances of getting laid improve when you hit on more and more girls.

Your chances of getting laid improve when you get more aggressive and screen girls harder.

This applies to anything- picking up women, getting in shape, learning a skill, learning how to play a sport, video games, life, whatever...

The guys that we work with have various skill levels, some guys have done 10,000+ approaches and some guys are just starting out. From what we've seen- if you have been a part of the "pick up community" (industry) chances are you've 'picked up' a lot of garbage that is completely unproductive, inefficient and in a lot of ways- makes you WORSE with women. This is also true of guys that have 'studied' dating columns from the introverted and sexually-inexperienced writers from the more mainstream sources such as AskMen.com, Men's Health or Maxim Magazine. There's a lot of junk out there. I studied it for years in my 20s and it hardly helped me out. It probably confused me more.

As you may have noticed, we offer different advice than mainstream dating.

For example, if you want a blowjob- rather than waiting 3 months and then slowly having intellectual discussion about the "Benefits vs. Risks of Oral Sex" with your girls (thanks, Askmen.com), we suggest: On the first night, eat the girls' pussy, then drop your pants, put your dick in the girl's face and say "kiss it." If that doesn't work. Say, "No for real, just kiss it," and put your dick 1 inch from her face. Not only is that more productive and efficient, it's also based on our actual experience. That's just a little example.

So if you're reading GLL.com or in the process of learning for the first time or rebuilding yourself, you will get better faster and get more results if you [try to] forget everything you've ever learned about dating/sex. It also helps to not read other dating/sex material. We have everything you need on this site. For free. That's not because I'm trying to push my material on you but rather there is definitely such thing as 'information overload' when you just start freezing up and you have no idea what to do because there's so much 'theory' aka bullshit in your head that you haven't applied.

Relax, Partna

Picking up girls can be nerve-wracking

Especially if you've never walked up to a girl that you want to bang, and especially if she is with other girls and guys.

It was really scary for me when I got started.

Keep in mind, most guys, don't approach girls on a daily basis.

Is She DTF?

Guys that regularly bang hot girls they just met know how to tell which girls are interested in sleeping with them. They focus their attention on those girls and encourage the nonsexual girls to "Get Lost".

You aren't going to get laid that night (or the near future) if she's not sexually interested or if she's nonsexual.

If you've read "How and What to Screen Girls For," you probably know that screening girls to see if they are sexually interested and sexually available is by far the most important criteria if you are trying to get laid. Because I was such a passive "nice guy," I didn't use to do this. I'd find myself disappointed that girls wouldn't "put out," frustrated from waiting 5+ dates to get physical with girls and clueless why some guys could bang hot girls on the first night and I could just a phone number. It was my own fault - I was projecting that I was a super nice and safe guy. I also wasn't screening them if they were sexually interested and sexual available. Girls saw me as boyfriend material, not an particularly exciting guy that could fuck them good.

Sexually Active/Available (Super Important)

When you hit on a chick the object is to see if she's compatible and sexually available for you.

The object is not to "make her like you" by showing her that you are a "safe, nice guy".

Hot girls don't get excited or wet from meeting another "safe, nice guy".

If you are just starting to approach girls or if you have just started approaching girls with a "Filter Them Out" mindset, don't start thinking about screening/filtering  just yet. Lower your approach anxiety first. Get comfortable walking up to chicks and talking to them. In order to truly screen and filter out undesirable personality types - you first need to be comfortable with just talking to new girls. Then you can build in some screening material and techniques.

Seriously, don't get too far ahead of yourself, don't take 1 step forward to take 2 steps back.