LR: Jenny D. (Hermosa Beach) (Sept 2009)

++I don’t proofread my lay reports.. I write them quickly

This was the second girl from my little “hit on 100 chicks” avg. guy game social experiment. Blonde, short hair, she was a transplant from Micigan, 30 years old. Just BARELY made my standards, plain pretty, no great features like tushy or boobs. Good personality though, she’s like the only girl that has a traditional real job 9-5 in LA

3rd set of the day while I was near the beach in Santa Monica, at an intersection I walked up to Jen and said, “Hey I know this is random, but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi.” I naturally did this in my ‘on purpose’ nervous guy game, where I pretend I’m nervous to lower my value. Shes was okay looking, not great clothing, not trendy.. I looked WAY cooler.

Jen respond really well and said that was ‘sweet’ and I was very attractive too. At that point I drop all game and just asked her about herself, what she was up to, etc. etc. She told me she was going to the shopping promenade to looking for a bday gift for her friend. Did more small talk, then I cut it off, saying, “hey I gotta go, whats a number I can text you at,” she smiled and said “absolutely,” and put her number in my phone…

LR: Anne Marie (Santa Monica Beach) (OCT. 2009) HB8

++I don’t proofread my lay reports.. I wrote them quickly at the time

After a good start at Santa Monica Beach doing my little talk to 100 chicks with  average game (3 phone numbers in 5 girls) I was walking on the ‘boardwalk’ area. I passed by an apartment and heard two girls seemingly laughing at me. I smiled at them and yelled “whats so funny??” they kept laughing so I walked over and just said “whats up,” both girls seemed like they were drunk (haha at 11 in the morning). One girl just said “you are so fucking hot, oh my God.” I said “thank you,” and hopped over the railing onto their patio.

I actually don’t have this happen that much since I’m pretty big and scary (I got a lot of chicks trying to talk to me when I was 180-190lbs… right now I’m 230lbs). The girls that hit on me these days are REALLY aggressive girls. since these girls liked me, I DROPPED ALL GAME. I introduced myself to the girls, Anne Marie and (Leslie?).. Leslie said “talk to Anny,” and made it clear that Anne was digging me. I was happy because Anne was the pretty one. She was 28, my age, but looked like she used to be WAY hotter.

Anne was loving talking to me and on normal circumstances I would be really aggressive with her physically, but I just put my hand on her thigh and kept it there. They offered me a drink. She was from West Virginia (I didn’t hit her with white trash jokes… she was digging me already). Anne Marie said “you are cute, why are you wearing those Hollywood clothes.” It was really clear to me that these girls were anti-Hollywood Beach Bum chicks… My clothes over qualified me… Normally I won’t “game down” or make fun of myself (but I had to because she ALREADY liked me), I say “I know right, I moved to LA and I just want to fit in, I’m a dork.” Anne said “you’re so sweet.” I actually hung out there for about 30 minutes and they invited me to their party later that night, but I declined because I had plans to go out that night. I took the number and said I’d show her a good time later this week.

"Screening" Mindset vs. "I Hope She Likes Me" Mindset

A post on the forum motivated me to discuss something that everyone ultimately must internalize if they are going to really be successful at picking up chicks. It's especially necessary to bang the the hottest chicks.

This might really be a breakthrough for most guys.

It was for me, even though I didn't realize it at the time.

Here's the audio of Mr. Pussy Inspector. An extended version of this post.

Has anyone else noticed that in Hollywood movies the female character often/usually "seduces" the guy? She nearly always makes the first move. She kisses the guy. She undresses the guy. And Perhaps the most unrealistic thing- she is happy and willing to embrace the male aggressor role and is madly attracted to her passive beta lover/hookup. That's not how it works in real life.

I've seen a lot through the years, especially my first ~2 years in Los Angeles (and San Diego) when I did virtually nothing but try to bang hot chicks and work when I had to. (see more about Chris)

In a nutshell- I wasn't any 'better looking,' during those ~2 years. I realized that the only reason I wasn't consistently banging a handful of chicks at a time through the years, was because I was a pussy and wasn't very aggressive. Once I got aggressive, I was getting more pussy than I could handle.

Remember the formula? Talk to Chicks (sexually-charged conversation) + Be Aggressive (physical advances) = Get Laid.

At times, I wasn't even talking to chicks, let alone being aggressive. It's a formula for long dry spells, needy behavior and general unhappiness.

*this one gets a little gross; but it's to prove a point. haha.

As explained in "The Secret to Life," taking proactive action is the most important thing if you are going to bang a lot of girls, make a lot of money, look your very best and live a high-quality, low-stress, time efficient, productive, fulfilling  life.

This discussion "Live Proactively," certainly generalizes, but largely explains 2 lifestyle paradigms. Some people proactively take action, create and build a lifestyle for themselves. Other people are simply reactive to the world around them and never seem to get ahead or reach their goals.

I strongly encourage you to live proactively as much as possible. It's pretty much inevitable that you'll have to be reactive to things in your daily life- but the goal is to realize the unnecessary reactive scenarios and behavior and try to eliminate them so you can investing more time in yourself.

Let's define these terms so were all on the same page-