Has anyone else noticed that in Hollywood movies the female character often/usually "seduces" the guy? She nearly always makes the first move. She kisses the guy. She undresses the guy. And Perhaps the most unrealistic thing- she is happy and willing to embrace the male aggressor role and is madly attracted to her passive beta lover/hookup. That's not how it works in real life.

I've seen a lot through the years, especially my first ~2 years in Los Angeles (and San Diego) when I did virtually nothing but try to bang hot chicks and work when I had to. (see more about Chris)

In a nutshell- I wasn't any 'better looking,' during those ~2 years. I realized that the only reason I wasn't consistently banging a handful of chicks at a time through the years, was because I was a pussy and wasn't very aggressive. Once I got aggressive, I was getting more pussy than I could handle.

Remember the formula? Talk to Chicks (sexually-charged conversation) + Be Aggressive (physical advances) = Get Laid.

At times, I wasn't even talking to chicks, let alone being aggressive. It's a formula for long dry spells, needy behavior and general unhappiness.

*this one gets a little gross; but it's to prove a point. haha.

As explained in "The Secret to Life," taking proactive action is the most important thing if you are going to bang a lot of girls, make a lot of money, look your very best and live a high-quality, low-stress, time efficient, productive, fulfilling  life.

This discussion "Live Proactively," certainly generalizes, but largely explains 2 lifestyle paradigms. Some people proactively take action, create and build a lifestyle for themselves. Other people are simply reactive to the world around them and never seem to get ahead or reach their goals.

I strongly encourage you to live proactively as much as possible. It's pretty much inevitable that you'll have to be reactive to things in your daily life- but the goal is to realize the unnecessary reactive scenarios and behavior and try to eliminate them so you can investing more time in yourself.

Let's define these terms so were all on the same page-

At night- when you meet a chick you want to bang, lightly touch her before you speak or as soon as possible thereafter.

During the day- when you meet a chick you want to bang, at least lightly touch her sometime before you ask for her phone number. If she's not busy, don't go for the phone number- try to take her somewhere.

This communicates your sexual interest in her and also screens for her sexual availability.

If she touches you back- it's a green light. If she does nothing but lets you touch her- it's a green light.

If she backs off, but doesn't leave- it's a yellow light.

Don't try to base your opinion on what women "claim". Don't base it on lesser endowed guys. If it matters to YOU- then it matters. If it doesn't- then it doesn't matter as much.

If you've found this page, then it probably matters. Cool, do something about it :) Good Looking Loser: Get Hung

Does Size Matter? AND Various Sexual Anxiety Issues/Concerns.

On some other forums, I've taken some criticism from guys with sexual anxiety & WOMEN that say I shouldn't encourage guys with sexual anxiety to increase their dick size because it will make them more self-conscious. I think that is ridiculous. You either like/satisfied your current size or you don't. Whether they know it or not, a lot of guys have sexual anxiety that prevents them from getting physical with girls. Penis size isn't exactly/always the cause. But it's definitely more rare that a well-endowed guy has sexual anxiety and is scared to take out his dick than a guy with an average/small penis. From personal experience, I absolutely love the moment when I show my penis out to a hottie that I just met. When they look at me like they won the lottery, it's priceless. That didn't happen 6-7 years ago.

As you know, I regard this penis enhancement simply as self-improvement. If a guy overweight and isn't maximizing his appearance- I'd be an AWFUL mentor if I told him "you shouldn't care about your body/looks, ONLY superficial women care about looks." I'd also be LYING.

Here's a quote for you to think about if your dealing with anxiety about ANYTHING and you wonder if you'll ever get the results you want.

"We are often so fearful of whether or not we can achieve something that we forget to remember that if it is broken down into smaller, daily steps it becomes MUCH easier and most often attainable."

- Good Looking Loser

A buddy of mine who is working on his game asked me a question about how to get comfortable in the 'social scene' and environments such as bars and clubs if your not used to it. This is a question that many people have. These feelings of anxiety certainly hurt your chances with women, but also can foster feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. I've been there.

This issue is actually overlooked by major dating/sex columns and not addressed properly by most of the leading dating/pick up authorities. Advice like, "Be confident," "Just have fun," or "Don't care what other people think!" is hardly effective and doesn't produce any sort of psychological change to anyone's game. Even well intended suggestions like, "You should get a bar tending job, that will help you get comfortable with talking to women," may be effective for some people but most people don't have the desire or time to commit themselves to another job and a long process that doesn't actually address their issue nor guarantee success.