This is an old post, a prelude to the Approach Anxiety Program, please see the program-

I used to have approach anxiety and was scared to approach chicks. My approach anxiety was as much (perhaps just slightly more) than the average guy.

I beat it, it took about 5-6 months until I could approach girls in any scenario or venue.

The mainstream advice to beat approach anxiety goes something like this- 1) Be confident! 2) Don't care what people think! 3) Just go talk to her 4) Just go approach 1000 girls 5) Pretend that she likes you 6) Do warmup sets and tell yourself, "they don't count" 7) Just be social!

None of these methods are worth a shit, mainly because they are written by "dating coaches" that don't have any experience with picking up HOT chicks and having sex with them.

This is one of the most important discussions you'll read on GoodLookingLoser.com

Here's a pretty long audio (~50minutes) on this IMPORTANT subject if you are having issues with developing a LEGIT screening mindset and getting LOTS of HOT Chicks. It discusses in-depth about my history/struggle to beat the validation mindset and how this mindset can potentially completely ruin your chances at getting good at this causing you to eventually quit.

The audio expands on the discussion (text) below-

Here are some other SUPER important discussions that you should understand, apply and embrace-

Hey, GoodLookingLoser.com has been public for about 3 months now, I'm thrilled to have EVERYONE here. Seriously, I am. This is basically my first time building an ongoing website and I appreciate all the love and feedback that we have gotten. I can't do with without you guys.

Ideally, I want you guys to develop into MEN that don't have much approach, social or sexual anxiety and aren't dependent on others for emotional support.

If you haven't hit on girls ever, the thought of going out alone and hitting on (screening) the HOTTEST girls might be scary. It was for me when I was just starting out. At the same time, I didn't exactly want to be around other guys that could take my focus off of what I was trying to do- GET LAID.

Standing around at a bar or club without talking to anyone might make you feel weird or like a loser. Stupid (untrue) thoughts go through your head, "All these girls know that I'm here alone!" "Everything is looking at me!" If you are just standing around, people actually think that you work at the place, not that you are some creeper that has no friends, no life, no balls and is trying to Get Laid (haha). In time, with experience, these thoughts will go away completely.

Mainstream pick up advice offers the solution, "Be confident!" "Don't care what other people think!"

And Obviously that advice helps NO ONE.

Good Looking Loser is a free HARDCORE, NO BULLSHIT self-improvement website and company.

The suggested advice comes from over a decade of personal experience.

Nothing on this site comes from theory that has not been tested.

The Good Looking Loser community is for people who want to proactively design their life, stretch their comfort and live up their potential. Discussions and focuses include dating the hottest/coolest girls, being in great physical shape, maximizing your strengths, improving your weaknesses, beating anxiety, managing their time and having a big dick.

We REALLY push things here, extreme behavior- this site is NOT for guys that are content with being average submissive males.

Debate- I hope she likes me safe 'nonsexual opinion opener' vs. Immediate physical advance (screening) Does a real man really NEED an opinion opener to convince a girl to speak to him? I don't think so. In mid-February Scotty was on Rx Heavy Muscle TV.

Scotty was on the show to discuss his ridiculously aggressive techniques and success with women in the past 4 years after his amateur bodybuilding career when he didn't get too many girls. Scotty ended up in a debate with PUA Jeff Magic about physical dialogue.

Scotty had no prep or had any idea that would be debating issues with anyone. He actually thought this interview was going to be a 5 minute Youtube video or something. He starts yelling at Jeff who has been a "pick up artist" for 10 years and never touched a girl during the day. Physical advances (balls) are the MOST important part of screening and flirting. Guys that don't touch girls DON'T get laid.

The main point (as you will see) is-

Jeff Magic a regular "I hope she likes me" PUA that approaches girls with interesting, playful opinion openers to try and avoid rejection as much as possible. The object is to try to get girls into conversations, get them to like you, then take numbers, then try to go on dates, then maybe sex [several weeks] later - all the while playing 'safe game' by being playful, funny, witty, indirect and nice. This is type of "game" is unproductive, inefficient and comes from a "I hope she likes me" submissive mindset. This is also what I call "Mr. Funny Man" game. These type of guys are safe 'boyfriend material' and generally don't get laid too often. I used to be that guy actually.