Here's a quote for you to think about if your dealing with anxiety about ANYTHING and you wonder if you'll ever get the results you want.
"We are often so fearful of whether or not we can achieve something that we forget to remember that if it is broken down into smaller, daily steps it becomes MUCH easier and most often attainable."
- Good Looking Loser
A buddy of mine who is working on his game asked me a question about how to get comfortable in the 'social scene' and environments such as bars and clubs if your not used to it. This is a question that many people have. These feelings of anxiety certainly hurt your chances with women, but also can foster feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. I've been there.
This issue is actually overlooked by major dating/sex columns and not addressed properly by most of the leading dating/pick up authorities. Advice like, "Be confident," "Just have fun," or "Don't care what other people think!" is hardly effective and doesn't produce any sort of psychological change to anyone's game. Even well intended suggestions like, "You should get a bar tending job, that will help you get comfortable with talking to women," may be effective for some people but most people don't have the desire or time to commit themselves to another job and a long process that doesn't actually address their issue nor guarantee success.