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It's rare that I meet a guy, especially one that's younger than I am, that seems to understand "the game" as well or arguably better than I do. Especially not a teenager. In fact, it's never happened.
Meet Boy Toy.
What's even crazier is this guy (kid) is only 20. He's been with us from the start (he was 19) and possibly has more experience using our material than anyone in the past year. He lives to hit on women (and fuck them, of course). You can basically trust his advice as if it were coming from me. I've spoken to him for hours on end and he has a lot to share with you. I interviewed him and I'll post that soon. I'm honored to have him be part of our community.
In the coming week, I'm going address an obvious issue that seems to be popping up with a few of our main members. They have above-average looks, they have above-average style and certainly have above-average social freedom. On paper, that's the key to getting pussy... and it is... provided you have SOCIAL SKILLS.
I'll address that really soon and it will be an eye opener for some guys. I'm not going to say what you think...
If you think that you lack social skills or even social freedom, follow Boy Toy's advice below and you will almost assuredly improve your social skills. His suggestion may actually better translate into broad real-world success with women than the other "more popular" suggestion- be a bartender.
If you are really looking put yourself out there or just improve your social skills in 2013. This is a damn good place to start.
I used to be the loser.
You know, not the good looking loser, but the nerdy lonely loser with no social skills. I had no friends, no girls, and a lot of problems with my family. I was bullied in school, played computer all day and cried myself to sleep at night. Every time I changed to a new school, I was popular the first couple of weeks, until they got to know me. I even got a friend for a month or two, but that fucked up as well. Worst thing was… I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL I WAS DOING WRONG!!! Thing is, I was clueless. I didn’t “get” the social game. I didn’t understand it. I simply had no social skills, and my mom has actually confessed that she was worried if I would ever get a social life at all.
So I decided to try to fix it. And it wasn’t easy. But in the end, I succeeded, and I will never regret the time I spent to get this part of my life figured out.
The social skills I have acquired have been a huge part of my success in the past 2-3 years:
- Being the most popular/famous guy in school.
- Having a great relationship with my family.
- Getting a best friend.
- Performing great in my jobs.
- Sleeping with 1 or 2 new girls a week.
- Retaining long term fuck buddies and open relationships.
If I hadn’t handled this issue, I would still be the loser. Even though I am a tall, good looking guy. You will get nowhere in life without a basic social understanding and the ability to small talk and have conversations with people. Work, family, friends, girls, sports, whatever - there’s people everywhere. Social skills are simply essential in life.
One of the major things that has improved my social skills is being a salesman. I have worked in sales since I turned 17, and I have sold over phone, email, on the street, in stores, at expos, you name it. Besides earning a good amount of money, I have also learned a TON of social skills from it. Actually, I attribute a lot of my success in life, to sales. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND everyone with interest in self improvement / social dynamics / getting laid / getting a social circle / beating AA, to get a sales job.
Let me tell you why.
First of all, being a salesman is a good way to make money. If you do well, you can easily earn 2-3 times as much as in an ordinary job. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
Main point is, you get what you are worth.
If you don’t sell anything – you wont earn anything. Yes, sometimes its hard, and yes, after 10 rejections in a row you sometimes feel hopeless and want to give up. But if you fight and push yourself and keep trying – it pays off. Just like everything else in life.
In most sales jobs, you have to take contact to people.
You either have to call people, stop them on the street or say something to open a conversation with them in a store. In other words, you have to COLD APPROACH. By doing sales, you will get used to opening people. This will highly reduce your AA. Stopping girls on the street is no big deal, if your work is stopping girls on the street from 9-5. Making contact with a stranger is no big deal, if you have done it hundreds of times before.
Do you feel like you don’t know how to socialize or small talk?
Go into sales.
As a salesman, you will learn how to start conversations with people you have never met. You will learn tons of good ways to open and make people stop in their day to listen to you.
But even more important, you will learn the next step: small talk / banter / fluff.
Whether you want to sell something, want to build a social circle or want to fuck someone, you need to small talk. You want to talk to people and build a connection with them. You do this with basic small talk. This can be talking about the weather, talking about something situational, complimenting people, talking about the news, their dog, whatever.
You absolutely NEED to be able to keep a conversation flowing, if you want to sell something.
You absolutely also NEED to be able to keep a conversation flowing, if you want to make friends or have sex.
Sales is basically talking to people. The more you talk to people, the better you get. (Surprise!)
One thing is the verbal dialogue. The other thing is the physical.
Body language, tonality and stuff like that, is a big part of sales as well.
You will learn how to use your own body language to communicate what you want, as well as you will learn how to read other people’s body language. You will also learn the importance of “mirroring” people (adapting to their body language and voice).
Boy Toy says: For instance, if you talk to an old lady that sits on a chair and speaks very slowly and quietly, you DON’T want to: move your body a lot, swing your arms and speak very fast and loud with a lot of swear words. People like you, if you “seem familiar”. Not if you are completely different.
In pickup artist NLP lingo, this is called “rapport” This is very useful, and will benefit your social skills a lot.
Would you ever buy anything from anyone, if you didn’t trust them or didn’t like them? I don’t think so…
That’s why, in sales, you really learn how to build trust/comfort, and how to make people like you.
I don’t think I have to explain, why this is important if you want to get laid / make friends.
Besides all these pretty obvious things, you will also benefit a lot from sales in your mentality and mindset.
You will learn the importance of persistence. You will learn that in sales as well as seduction, you often get some resistance and obstacles, but that many of these can be overcome if you don’t give up and keep persisting.
You will learn how to CLOSE THE DEAL. Whether is closing a sale or getting your dick wet in some hot girl’s pussy, the most important thing is to CLOSE. When you do sales, and you get the window of opportunity, where the customer shows interest, you try to close the sale. There is a very common principle in sales. ABC – Always Be Closing. Because often, in sales or with girls, if you don’t strike while the iron is hot, you might lose it.
So, when you always look for interest and try to close in your job… Do you think that you will be more conscious of opportunities with girls, and that you will ACT and TAKE ADVANTAGE of these opportunities more often? I bet you will!
In sales, you will also get used to making people happy / making their day / giving them a good experience. This is very useful, and is a habit that will affect your social life as well. When you usually smiling, have a good energy and make the customers feel good – you will probably do the same when you are socializing.
The conclusion is very clear.
Whether you have decided to improve yourself, beat approach anxiety, improve your social skills, get more pussy, learn how to make friends or whatever goal you want to accomplish. GO INTO SALES. Seriously. Do it. Most people need a job to make some money anyways. Here is your chance to improve your social skills – and get paid to do it!
Action plan / How to get a job
I would recommend you to start in telemarketing (working in a call center, where you call people over the phone and sell to them).
This is the easiest and most comfortable way to start and learn the basics of sales.
You don’t have to face the customer. You can sit on a comfy chair in the safety behind your phone.
Don’t have to worry about the body language of you or the customer (besides tonality and voice)
You can have all sorts of “cheat-sheets” in front of you, with openers, small talk lines, product information, closing lines, etc. Heck, you can even have a paper with every single word you need to say, so you can read aloud from that in the beginning. This is a HUGE help, so you don’t have to worry about what to say.
You have a lot of colleagues and supervisors around you, to help you all the time.
If you fail, it’s not a big deal; you can call the next customer in 10 seconds and try again.
So, what can you do now? (Plan for ACTION)
Find 3 call center companies in your area.
Call or email all of them right NOW and ask for a job.
Don’t worry about your resume and CV and all that shit. All that matters is results.
Tell them, that you want to work for them. Ask them, when it would be possible to have a meeting to hear more about the job. Agree on a time and date. Ask them, if there is anything they want you to bring. Go to the meeting, smile and act normal. Call centers always need employees.
Congratulations on your new job.
I hope that this article has been useful and worth your time. If you have any questions, comments or requests, don’t hesitate to contact me.