"Can I Get Your Number?"
(The 'Bare Min' Approach)
No matter what type of "approach" you do-
The key to getting phone numbers is- ASKING.
Yesterday, July 9th, I walked up to 17 girls at the mall and asked each of them for their phone numbers.
Other than "Hi.", "Can I Get Your Number?" was basically the first thing I said, often in about 10-15 seconds.
In most cases, I introduced myself right after and reached out and shook/took their hand.
Unlike what I usually do, I made almost no effort to communicate any personality, cool vibe, etc.
In some of the later audios, I barely even attempt to make conversation and continue to ask/tell the girls to give me their numbers.
Note- I AM NOT TRYING TO "GET AS MANY NUMBERS AS POSSIBLE," I AM SIMPLY SHOWING WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I ASK A GIRL FOR HER NUMBER BEFORE SAYING ANYTHING ELSE.
In terms of screening (approaching to separate the girls that are down vs. waste of time girls), this type of approach isn't all that bad.
I ask for their number in the first 10 seconds and I touch them about 5 seconds later.
Since this type of thing is very direct (and even rude to many), girls definitely have the opportunity to "reject" the approach and walk away without being rude and feeling bad.
I'll have to see who's really down and who's not.
(this is no different than if I did anything else)
But chances are-
If a chick gave me her number (given the type of approach I did), she is at the very least-INTERESTED and aware of my intentions.
(again, not really different than my normal thing)
Quick How-to Get Girl's Phone Number Guide-
- Look good
- Ask them for their phone number
So What Happened?
The same thing as always when you talk to a reasonable sample of girls (15+) on any given day.
"Various predictable reactions"
Some girls were-
- Nice and [seemingly] available.
- Neutral and [seemingly] available.
- Shy and [seemingly] available.
- Standoffish and [seemingly] available.
- Nice and [seemingly] unavailable.
- Neutral and [seemingly] unavailable.
- Shy and [seemingly] unavailable.
- Standoffish and [seemingly] unavailable.
This never changes.
If this idea is new to you and you have been under the impression that EVERY girl is available in ANY situation (so long as your "game" is good), please bring your socially retarded spaceship back to earth-
While there's a decent chance that some of these girls would have otherwise given me their number if I took a more "normal" approach- that's not the point.
While there's a decent chance that some of these numbers are fake (see results)- that's not the point.
The point wasn't to "get the most numbers as possible."
In this case, it wasn't even to see which girls as DTF/maybe-DTF.
The point was to show that you can walk up to a bunch of chicks with the bare minimum to say and ask them for their number- and they'll sometimes give you their/a number.
(Chris, we knew that)
(I know- but some don't believe it because otherwise they'd do it)
The majority of the time, you won't get their number.
(again, no different than any other approach)
Sometimes you'll get a dead number.
(again, no different than any other approach)
Sometimes you'll get a real number.
(and based on how much you touched her/how much she likes you- a legit DTF girl)
What helped me when I starting out in 2008, was making certain that I ended ALL my interactions (with girls that I was interested in) with-
"Hey cool, I gotta run, what's a number I can text you at?"
(and have my phone ready)
That increased the amount of numbers I got, the amount of numbers I didn't get and the amount of girls that I saw again.
If you find yourself that you "can't get numbers", the problem is usually-
- You aren't asking.
- You need to work on how you look and present yourself.
You'll get to the point where you can begin conversations with "What's your number," and get some real ones if you hit on enough girls.
That's the point.
Try it out.
Do exactly what I did.
There's nothing that prevents you from doing this every single day.
The "Can I Get Your Number" Within 10 Seconds Approach Audios
I'll give the details that I remember and the few that I wrote in my phone.
It's important to note whether I held eye contact/smile with the girl beforehand.
That's big for these "fast" moving approaches. All the girls were 18-25, I think.
Listen to the "(No Number)" audios, some of them are pretty funny.
Girl #1 (No Eye Contact, Dead Number)
Notes: No eye contact, walked up along side of her. This is one of the only the ones where I didn't ask the girl for her number in the first 10 seconds. She had something in her mouth at the beginning and struggled to talk.
Girl #2 (No Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: No eye contact. Girl just got off her phone.
Girl #3 (Eye Contact, Live Number)
Notes: Eye contact. Sporty girl. Texted with her last night.
Girl #4 (Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: Eye contact. Wandering around the girl's section of express. I say something funny when she says she "doesn't give out her number".
Girl #5 (No Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: No eye contact. I call her a prostitute after she calls me a stalker. I was just playing along, apparently she was offended. Instead of going home and hanging myself- I walked up to the next pretty girl I saw.
Girl #6 (Eye Contact, Live Number)
Notes: Eye contact. Girl made a funny face/voice at me, rare. Shocked this girl give me her number. Even more shocked that she responds to my texts.
Girl #7 (No Number, Amazing Approach)
Notes: No eye contact. Race war. 1/2 flirting, 1/2 for real. I take the clothes that she checking out and put them back on the rack. I don't want hear about verbal "frame control," I was touching this girl way more than appropriate. haha. This is my favorite one.
Girl #8 (Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: Eye contact. Might have been 16, haha, walking fast. Cutie.
Girl #9 (No Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: No eye contact. Another hot young girl, probably 18 though.
Girl #10 (Eye Contact, Not Sure Dead/Live Number)
Notes: Eye Contact. Girl had a high voice, but not as high as it sounds. I think the audio recorder was backwards/fucked up.
*audio is lousy on this one- can't understand it*
Girl #11 (Eye Contact a Few Minutes Before, Live Number)
Notes: Had the recorder in my hand the entire time, her hand in my other. Made puppy dog faces at her. Hot girl from Pennsylvania. Had seen her earlier in the Food Court.
Girl #12 (Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: Eye contact. I think she saw me talking to the girl(s) before. We weren't actually in an argument but she wasn't about to give me her number. Trashy.
Girl #13 (Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: Girl freaked out when I put my hand on her to get her attention (after eye-contact). Haha.
Girl #14 (Eye Contact, Live Number)
Notes: Eye contact. Hot rich girl from the Palisades. Thought this girl was just fucking with me/on crack but she texts back.
Update 7/10: yeah she was mad high, and usually is.
Girl #15 (No Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: Kept spamming/pestering this girl. haha
Girl #16 (Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: "Let go of my hand". haha. Asked for 6? times for her number.
Girl #17 (No Eye Contact, No Number)
Notes: I lack creativity. Been up for about 21 hours straight.
What Not to Make of This
There is no reason to start calculating percentages, estimated statistics or start drawing graphs.
The "sample size" is too small anyway.
Instead of being a math nerd, go ask girls for their numbers.
It can be the first thing you say.
If you want one statistical conclusion, that will apply to most guys, here it is-
If you ask 100+ girls for their number, you'll get 1 or [a lot] more numbers.
It is much more likely that 1 or more girls gives you their number (and it's real) than for 100 girls in-a-row to turn you down.
That's what I've said since day one.
Also, "high risk" approaches yield better results than soft shit when they work just once.
(there is never any "risk")
If you can get 3-5 solid (maybe DTF) phone numbers over 15-20girls in under 2 hours- ITS BETTER than taking 5 days to get more phone numbers from the same amount of girls.
You can get further with a girl by asking for number in 10 seconds than some guys get in 2 hours.