We're going to talk about what "type" of guy (lifestyle) is most appealing to the hottest, coolest and usually - most popular girls.
Hot women meet a lot of guys.
Most are nice guy pushovers that might provide for a nice husband or loyal boyfriend but lack excitement, edge and sexual experience.
Other guys are "bad boy" types.
These guys are certainly the type that hot chicks tend to sleep with - but often they lack the necessary characteristics to be a long-term boyfriend (or fuckbuddy).
Though polar opposites - both these "types" are often one-dimensional and generic.
The hottest sexually active girls usually experience several guys of both types before they are 21.
After a while, these girls become somewhat disinterested in both types and aren't as apt to sign on for an uncommitted 'Fuckbuddy' relationship unless the guy has serious Boyfriend Potential. Many of these girls even stop getting excited about meeting "random guys" and leave the club/bar scene - often turning back to their social circles to find an attractive, cool guy to get serious with.* Not surprisingly, around this age (22-25), girls are starting to watch their friends get married and feel additional pressure to get serious.
*this is a trend among hot, popular girls (22+) that think "bad boys" only want to fuck and "nice guys" are only boyfriend material.
AS YOU SHOULD KNOW-
Your lifestyle/achievements/resume, plays a factor in "retention" (fuckbuddies aka uncommitted relationships), and committed relationships but not as much in how much you Get Laid.
(Logistics and Killer Instinct play a MUCH greater factor)
Your lifestyle, among other factors, is a significant factor in determining whether you are seen as Boyfriend Material (Nice Guy), Boyfriend Potential (Well-Rounded Player) or a Scumbag (Someone to use for sex).
It is somewhat of a misconception that you will Get Laid simply by "improving your lifestyle".
In fact, Krauser argues that "improving your value/lifestyle" has become the #1 excuse to procrastinate and not talk to women, and therefore a significant reason why a lot of guys aren't Getting Laid. With only a few exceptions, I concur.
It may help, but you will Get Laid more by improving your sex appeal (looks, style) and talking to more girls.
A lot of guys take up girl-friendly hobbies, such as yoga and salsa, dancing thinking it will help them Get Laid.
It might, but ultimately that is because he is talking/has access to more warm girls (numbers game) and not because "he is hotter because he does yoga".
With that said, after dissing "Self-Improvement Strictly For Pussy", I feel it's good for you to know what "type" (lifestyle) of guy gets the hottest girls most excited.
The type of guy who hot girls brag to her friends about.
The type of guy who can keep a hot girl staring at her phone for 16 hours at a time.
The type of guy who hot girls will ditch her friends for - even when she knows there will be social consequences.
The type of guy who has hot girls stalking his Facebook profile and comparing herself to his ex-girlfriends.
The type of guy who causes a hot girl to drunk text/call him on the weekends because she doesn't know what he's doing and it's driving her CRAZY.
The type of guy who has 4+ hot girls wanting to sleep with him.
The type of guy who hot girls masturbate to - even after she's slept with him.
The type of guy who hot girls get ABSOLUTELY OBSESSED WITH.
The type of guy who can keep hot girls in an uncommitted relationship for 6+ months - with no freakouts or DTR (determine the relationship) tantrums.
The type of guy whom hot girls consider to have the ultimate "Boyfriend Potential", even when he is sleeping with other girls and there is a good chance she'll never be his girlfriend.
(remember, having Boyfriend Potential is a GOOD thing; it's what keep girls around, Boyfriend Material - is not)
Remember - we are talking about the period of time when the guy-girl are getting to know each other.
Not first impressions.
Not when guy-girl just meet.
Sex appeal is BY FAR the MOST ATTRACTIVE criteria when you first meet a girl.
Not a lifestyle or resume.
(the only exception is 'status', a form of Swag Factor)
Let me tell you about "that guy" that is THAT GUY.
I call him - "Mr. Juxtaposition"
Though multi-dimensional, Mr. Juxtaposition is not necessarily well-rounded or super interesting.
He just has at least TWO significant things about him that seem to contradict themselves.
Usually, he is both EDGY and NOT EDGY.
This makes him unique.
The edgy side of him - makes him a player.
(usually style and behavior)
The not edgy side of him - makes him a keeper.
Lets give some very basic examples of Mr. Juxtaposition-
- A stock broker who is into tattoos or body art.
- An athlete who plays the piano or poetry.
- A business owner who is into something completely unrelated to his business and personality.
- A computer programer who is into MMA and training for real fights.
- A lawyer who is into surfing, extreme sports or rock climbing.
- A doctor who does some part-time acting or modeling.
- A bodybuilder (legit bodybuilder) who has piercings.
- An accountant who is into sculpting or makes his own art.
- An athlete that is into fashion and isn't gay. (see my worst enemy - Sean Avery)
- A pharmacist that has a wild side and jumps out of planes.
- A musician in a band that is RIPPED while most of his buddies just smoke weed and sit there.
- An Ivy-League type guy that has a motorcycle and does cross-fit.
- A guy with a serious personality that is taking acting/comedy classes.
(even if he sucks at it)
- A meathead who is pursuing a degree in chemical engineering.
- A super masculine "tough guy" who does volunteer work or devotes himself to a humanitarian cause.
- A rich kid who reads to underprivileged children or volunteers at a local hospital.
- Virtually any guy who knows how to cook really well.
Even if Mr. Juxtaposition isn't great or super experienced at his hobby - the simple fact that he has a "paradox passion" makes him unique, cool and ultimately- SEXY.
Or at the very least - Above Average in comparison to the usual generic nice guy or bad boy.
It doesn't even matter if the hobby or passion isn't "chick friendly" or particularly appealing to women.
Mr. Juxtaposition is often among "Top 1%" that attractive girls consider "a catch" and relish the opportunity/challenge to lock down as a boyfriend.
Hot girls are willing to fuck him for months at a time - hoping one day that he'll call her his girlfriend, oftentimes knowing - that will never happen.
From what I've learned from my own experience, my friends that are/aren't successful with having multiple fuckbuddies and living on-and-off with hot girls as my roommates - it's more intriguing, unique and sexy to have a JUXTAPOSITION than to simply be accomplished or "well-rounded".
Ask Mark (admin on the forum).
He is the best-looking, highest-achieving, scholar athlete and well-rounded Renaissance Man I know and he couldn't get good looking girls to consider him anything but "Boyfriend Material" until we fixed him. (yeah, we FIXED HIM)
My Own Experience
Despite my approach anxiety, obsession with the gym/body image and very average social intelligence in my mid-20's, I always had a bit of Juxtaposition that served me well.
I've always had some nerdy (or non-meathead) interests.
- I love the History Channel - I've always found European, Soviet and other cultures fascinating.
- I've always been interested in health and human performance - not just for bodybuilding benefits.
- I've always liked to read and write non-fiction; I might even start a blog one day.
- I've always felt a social responsibility to help those less fortunate, many time- autistic children.
- I always enjoyed discussing intelligent topics and social issues.
- I still talk to and sleep with stuffed animals. (weird to you, cute to girls)
Given the meathead persona/appearance, girls have always considered these characteristics pretty attractive. These things didn't "get me laid" but they helped keep girls around for longer than if I was one-dimensional and it probably helped me slowly get some girls into bed who were looking for a boyfriend.
(not a bad thing if you aren't getting much pussy anyway)
Once I started rocking a more edgy, less-preppy, style things started coming together.
These days, I'm a walking Juxtaposition or hypocrite - whatever you choose.
Are You Really Mr. Juxtaposition?
A lot of guys will find this discussion to be insightful.
A lot of those same guys have already convinced themselves that they are already Mr. Juxtaposition.
Maybe you are.
But maybe you aren't.
Or even more likely - maybe nobody even knows if you aren't presenting yourself as such (whether by appearance or conversation).
Make a point at telling chicks who you are and what your're about. Sometimes you can do so when you meet them, sometimes not.
(If you read this article - you'll remember that I particularly suggest that Black Guys do so)
Either way, self-improvement begins with taking a critical, non-bias look at yourself. Make sure you do so.
Remember - Mr. Juxtaposition isn't just well-rounded, good at stuff or "interesting".
He has 2 obvious characteristics that [nearly] directly oppose each other.
Once you get to know him - it's clear that he's not a "nice guy", "bad boy" or some easily understood predictable stereotype with nothing but a surface layer.
He's someone that can't be labelled or made sense of per normal standards and expectations.
Being "smart" and "lifting weights" is certainly a start - but it's not quite the specific, developed Juxtaposition that I'm encouraging you to shoot for.
Juxtaposition, though related, isn't quite "Swag Factor". Swag Factor is more about social status and first impressions - but still - Juxtaposition is a very significant part of being an elite guy and reaching your potential in life and with women.
Again, by NO MEANS do you have to be Mr. Juxtaposition to get hot girls into bed. It will be a HUGE help in keeping them around though. Trust me.
If you have a Juxtaposition or are working at it, tell us what it is-