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A "long-term goal" is simply a bunch of short-term goals strung together. So long as they are attainable, your short-term goals shouldn't overwhelm you.
A goal without a plan is simply a wish.
Pick ONE GOAL
Make it your #1 priority
Make a plan of short-term goals (allowing a time frame that is longer than it should take)
Work on it with at least 75% of your free time
Primary Goals (>75% of Your Free Time)
Overcome Depression *Varies*
If you have depression (or think you do) your FIRST GOAL and FIRST PRIORITY to be to beat depression.
Don't yet try to stop smoking.
Don't worry about "approach anxiety".
Don't even worry if you have a below-average penis.
That stuff is a small sideshow compared to depression that is destroying your life and hindering any effort to improve of it.
Unfortunately, we don't yet have a foolproof structured program where we can ~guarantee you results and success if you agree to follow the steps.
My understanding of depression isn't quite as solid as it is on women, health/fitness, male enhancement, performance enhancing drugs, etc. If we draw up a guide - it will definitely be something that I will have to think about and there will be a few people I'll need to speak to.
For many, addressing this goal WILL require a trip to the doctor and soon after - a psychiatrist.
You might have to see a few until you find one that you trust and respect.
This is where most people quit. Don't be one of them.
Don't let a couple disappointing trips to an out of touch doctor discourage you and keep you depressed.
Be open to medication, it's just temporary. (if it works- who cares???)
Take a look at some of the legit natural remedies - Kratom was a blessing for me and so many other people.
YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING OTHER THAN SLOWLY DIE.
The first steps are the hardest, once you get the ball rolling it will be easier.
Virtually nothing on this website will be possible if you have an ongoing battle WAR with depression.
You'll be in the same position a year from now - trying to get excited about another goal (distraction) for depression.
The steps to beat depression will vary from person-to-person.
Ultimately the process can involve-
Identifying the primary cause of your depression. (What is the ONE THING could you do that would UNDENIABLY make you happier?)
Identifying secondary causes of your depression.
Accepting your current temporary position in life.
Identifying and correcting chemical imbalances or hormonal deficiencies such as low testosterone.
If you aren't successful at completing it in January - you'll know what your goal is for February.
Ambition without self-discipline is pointless and even self-destructive. Get your mind right.
Approach Anxiety Program *6 Months* (FINISH IT - NO MATTER WHAT)
If primary goal is to get really good at meeting random women - I suggest that you devote the first half of this year to crush approach anxiety once and for all.
Stop doing half-ass approaches that ultimately just discourage you and result in nothing when they do "work".
Although the program theoretically only takes 8 or 9 weeks. Most guys need 3 months to complete it.
I suggest you take the unnecessary pressure off yourself and give yourself 6 MONTHS to complete it.
In the first few weeks you'll be doing some online dating and once you get to week 7 and 8, you'll be doing some 'basic guy' approaches. You'll be getting a little better every day and there's a chance you'll get laid.
Devote several hours a day to it but also take your time with the process.
Push yourself and promise that you'll complete Week 7 (having successfully done 95% of the drills) NO MATTER WHAT.
There's not guesswork to it, finish the majority of the program - you will no longer have approach anxiety and it won't come back.
Lets not be talking about "beating approach anxiety" this time - next year.
Finish the job in 2014.
Even if it takes 12 months (it won't if you are serious) - it will be worth it and you know it.
Stop Smoking Forever *3 Months*
A large percentage of smokers that are still concerned about their health, physique and overall looks will decide they will stop smoking in 2014.
Many pick January 1st and last until about 3pm when a nicotine craving comes calling after a night of heavy booze and cigarettes.
Very few actually follow through.
A lack of willpower is always the main culprit but most have no plan whatsoever.
Addiction, of any type, is rarely between without a plan.
Followed correctly, our "Ultimate Guide to Smoking Forever" will have you smoke-free in 6 or 7 days.
The remaining days will be designated on a calendar that you and your doctor prepare.
By Week 12, you will have long broken the physical addiction and hopefully it will be the last of the toxic nicotine lifestyle.
Check out the guide - we couldn't make it easier.
Get Ripped (7-8% Body Fat) *However Long You Think + 45 Days*
Unless you've seen your all 6 of your abs before - chances are, you haven't seen all your facial features before either. Furthermore, you probably haven't experienced girls staring at you and asking to take pictures with you.
It is my belief that nearly every guy can present themselves with 'above-average' sex appeal which is enough to pass the looks threshold of the vast majority of girls.
Remember, although we are shooting for the 'Ideal Body' - your face is what matters most.
Unless you have neither work or school, concurrently doing the Approach Anxiety Program and cutting down to 7 or 8% body fat can be overwhelming. I suggest you only pick ONE as your primary goal (75%+ of your free time) and devote 15-20% to the secondary goal.
We'll have more resources on fitness and nutrition soon.
Until then, if you goal is STRICTLY WEIGHT LOSS check this out-
The guys that fail to achieve this "20+ girls" (or similar) goal ALL get off to a lousy start.
They are picky, procrastinating, think they have "plenty of time" and try to pace themselves for "1.666 girls" a month. Before they know it they are behind and already down on themselves. It trickles down and the entire year can be a waste.
The way to STOP PLAYING FROM BEHIND is to GET WAY AHEAD.
Get 3 Fuckbuddies (Golden Age) *As Long It Takes*
My original goal with the whole "pickup girls thing" was to have 4 hot girls that I was messing around with on the regular.
I fulfilled it in November of 2009, which was actually before I slept with 20 girls (in a year).
For some guys retention/fuckbuddies will be easier than a 'one-night stand' goal.
There is a growth period that nearly all guys experience when they have 2 or more fuckbuddies and continue to hit on other women.
For many, it will be the very first time that they have almost ZERO anxiety and ZERO sexual or emotional neediness.
I call this the "Golden Age".
You truly feel amazing, liberated and like your entire life is going to work out.
Not surprisingly, your results will SKYROCKET during this period of time. Too few guys take advantage of this period however. Most guys completely stop talking to new girls when they get 1 bed buddy and miss out on this period.
I would approach this goal in the same way as the "20+" goal.
Do whatever it takes to bring in TWO girls that you dig.
Your self-esteem will be sky high and bringing in the third girl will happen quickly.
This is how it goes for virtually EVERY guy that consciously or unconsciously fulfills this goal.
GET OFF TO A FAST START - YOU MIGHT HAVE THIS GOAL FINISHED IN JUST 3 MONTHS.
* If you are wondering why "Get a Girlfriend" is NOT among these suggested goals it is because - the goal should be "Meet # Cool Girls" or "Make the Hottest/Coolest Fuckbuddy my Girlfriend". Your girlfriend, ideally, is the girl that EARNS you after spending at least 6 months as your fuckbuddy and competing against other girls.
The goal of "Get a Girlfriend," with virtually no attention paid to the quality of girl and her emotional health - is a completely worthless goal if you have an self-respect.
If you are a virgin, however, I will have a plan of attack for you (in a few weeks) and it actually involves the 'Get a Girlfriend' goal. Your girlfriend will be strictly for sexual experience and not anything serious though.
Grow a 7" Penis *Varies*
Although 8" x 6" is the usual benchmark for a huge penis, 7" is all you need to throughly impress 99% of women - in my experience.
A healthy 7" dick is considered just "big" or "above-average" to guys.
Girls, however, will almost always qualify a 7" penis as HUGE. Especially if it's nice and pumped up from the Bathmate or Penomet.
Although the sheer amount of hours you can safely devote to PE makes it more of a secondary goal, having the mentality of-
"It's not my first goal..."
"It's not the most important thing..."
... is a recipe for slower gains, procrastination and another year of underachievement.
Why did it take me ~8 years to gain ~1.75"?
Because I had THAT attitude. I wasn't serious about it.
If I could do it over, I'd set aside 10 or 12 months to get to 7+".
After I hit 7", I could easily maintain with Bathmate, which simply takes just ~10 minutes, 3 or 4 times a week.
You will gain a substantial amount very quickly if you COMMIT and INVEST your time in male enhancement just as if it was as important as building a business, getting your perfect body, getting 3 fuckbuddies or anything else that requires a significant effort.
Put your 6-12 months in.
Get to 7".
And Be done with it. (maintain with Bathmate)
Here is a routine inspired by DoubleLongDaddy of MattersofSize.com that can help get you there-
Start a Business *Ongoing* (and actively LEARN from REAL EXPERIENCE)
The "Get Paid" or "Get Rich" section will debut near to Spring 2014.
Unlike when I created Good Looking Loser 2012, I can discuss FROM LEGIT EXPERIENCE how to build a successful online businesses and inactive community from the ground up.
I do not know how to write code (can you tell?) and I still haven't figured out how to use the majority of WordPress.
It doesn't matter.
It took just 3-4 months until I was able to pay all my expenses and retire from personal training.
The vast majority of "How to Make Money Online!" websites are made by Internet Marketers have not made a single dollar online before they claimed expertise. Like the Seduction Community, many "gurus" have no prior inexperience with what they are discussing and a lot of their advice is inefficient, counter-productive in the eyes of Google or simply WRONG at every level.
We will discuss "niche sites" such as HairLossFromSteroids.com (this shitty site has earned upwards of $4500/month) that strictly earn passive income and huge interactive communities such as GoodLookingLoser.com.
My suggestion is to FIRST dedicate 12 months to building a niche site using my specific instructions that I will give to you in the future. You can always combine traffic from your various websites - I have.
My advice for 'Start a Business' is it make it your ONE AND ONLY GOAL.
Like the other sections, "Get Rich" will significantly change people lives and earn some a six-figure salary in passive income in a matter of years.
Most people should focus other goals for now, I got your back in the near future.
Here's what to do-
Write out ALL your goals, wants and needs.
Take a day or two to write/think if you need to.
Then answer this question-
If you could achieve ONE THING in 2014 and ONE THING only, what would it be?
Circle that goal.
Now you know where you should be spending at least 75% of your free time.
If you've completed all these goals - then you certainly don't need my help anymore.