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This compilation features our "Nervous Guy Game" approach. We will have more aggressive stuff in the near future.
We will also have some surprises that will blow your mind/make you piss in your pants. (promise)
I felt more comfortable starting with these less aggressive/dynamic approaches so I could get used to working with the [highly paid] professional camera crew (1.5 guys). As I've learned from shooting in-field videos on a intermittent basis, there can be a lot of lost/dead/shaky footage if the setup and timing isn't almost perfect when someone else is shooting.
These videos are uncut and unedited - you see the whole interaction FROM START TO FINISH with some pre-approach graphics to provide further context.
You will see the good, the bad and the boring.
You will see the successful interactions and the "rejections".
This is exactly how it looks in real life.
The only parts that you don't see are when we are sitting around doing nothing for 20-25 minutes at a time, eating the complimentary vegetable platter (thanks guys) or throwing a football around.
A lot of other pickup videos purposely only show quick out-of-order highlights of several "good" interactions in order to be entertaining and make the brand look good.
I understand the need to "entertain" (more traffic) but this approach is totally disingenuous because it completely exaggerates how good the guy is (or needs to be) and completely ignores that normal conversation (small talk, general social skills) is about 90+% of interaction. (look at our Killer Instinct highlight video and notice the effect a "highlights" video has)
When inexperienced guys see these "flashy verbal" interactions, instead of basic social skills on display, the fairly simple process of meeting women is greatly distorted for them.
They actually become more anxious and begin to develop a "Mr. Funny Man" personality that leaves them as a clown without social skills, sometimes known as a "pickup artist".
The camera is incredible.
With a 300mm lens - it can zoom in on an entire face from 60 yards and get full-body shots from 100 yards away.
It's small but we didn't even have to make much of an effort to conceal it since I can't even see it from 50+ yards away.
I wish we started these a year ago.
This stuff isn't cheap though and the fact that I could blow $1000's of dollars and only get 2-3 good/in-focus interactions still scares me.
Updated (August 19th, 2014)
Here is an example -
Nervous Guy Review
Again, these are "Nervous Guy" approaches.
It's the most rejection-proof approach you can make.
It's perfect if you have Approach Anxiety but you still want to try and meet girls.
Basically, you -
Try to make eye-contact and smile at the girl
Walk up to her and tell her "You're nervous/shy but you wanted to tell her that she was attractive"
Make small talk (who/what/where/when/why/etc.)
In 4-5 minutes or whenever run out of stuff to say - you ask her, "What a number I can you at?" or something similar.
Try your best to find commonalities or flirt but don't put too much pressure on yourself, it doesn't matter that much - just try to get comfortable and make sure you ask the girl for her number and not just walk away.
As mentioned in my comprehensive discussion on Nervous Guy Game and in the introduction of the video, Nervous Guy almost always receives a positive or semi-positive response (just about ALWAYS positive with pre-approach eye-contact/smile).
No emotionally healthy girl is going to shit on you or be rude - girls understand that most guys have anxiety about talking to strangers. Simply making the effort shows that you have courage, even if it's in a "Nervous Guy" way.
If the girl thinks you are good looking, she may even think it's "cute" that are you nervous.
Every once in a while, you'll run into an odd-ball girl that is strange or unfriendly. It will be so obvious that she is a weirdo that you won't think twice about it - reasonable people don't react poorly to the Nervous Guy. Fact.
Nervous Guy is a "low risk" approach so it's not going to be the best method to find the DTF girls that are the best candidates to sleep with. That's what aggressive Screening is for.
Still, don't think you can't land a lot of dates (or more).
That's how you beat Approach Anxiety if you don't do our program.
A Day of Approaching Girls at a Park (w/ "Nervous Guy Game")
Additional Information and Commentary on Specific Approaches
Lets chat about the video and about the individual approaches.
I usually don't talk about each approach since the results are often a product of sexual availability and not "game" but we put a shitload of time (and money) into this hour long video.
I encourage you to watch the full video or the individual videos first - don't let me tell you "what you saw", draw your own conclusion and insights.
I'll tie up the loose ends after.
Girl #1 9:33am (Eye Contact & Smile)
We got off to a hilarious start.
The first girl was a total weirdo.
It was completely obvious and it actually was a good way to get the day going since we all loosened up and the park was pretty empty for the next 2 hours.
A lot of nerds will claim it's my "game" (or what I said) or hideous appearance that scared the girl away, but the fact of the matter is - she was a weirdo (not all women have it together, believe it or not). It's not your job to "win" these girls over.
Once you have hit on 500-1000+ girls, you'll be able to realize who is an oddball and who just isn't into you/available.
Unless you have completely low self-esteem, it should be obvious.
Although this type of reaction goes against my "nothing bad happens" statement and we could have edited it out to make me look better, we didn't.
Besides, this was hilarious and the video doesn't really do it justice.
But again - this rarely happens and the odds are slim that you ever run into this type of response.
Girl #2 9:52am (Eye Contact & Smile)
This one started with a really warm smile, unfortunately you can't see the girl's face at the time.
I had seen this girl a little bit earlier when we were doing sound tests and setting up and I knew she'd be coming back to her car.
She gives no resistance and is on her way to sit down with me before I even walk over to the bench.
Looking back the video, we both look pretty stupid (African-American Indian? - you'll see).
As you should know, I don't like or suggest that you "visit girls at work" or put yourself in situations where they are around a ton of the girl's friends until you've slept with the girl a few times. There is nothing to gain from that. Insist that she meets up with you or comes over, on your terms. Eventually she will, if she likes you.
There's a popular school of thought that girls that invite guys to "visit them at work" or "come to their party" are just looking for attention (orbiters) or don't like the guy.
That is not always true.
Some girls just offer these invites because they want to see the guy and might even want to show him off. There is no conclusion you can make if a girl extends this sort of "come see me at work" invite. Just don't go for it and take her out/meet up with her on your terms.
The girl seemed really genuine with her travel stories and worldly perspective. You don't run into this very often and I appreciated her sincerity. Odd that it was a fake number or she didn't text me back.
Girl #3 10:29am (No Eye Contact & Smile)
This was a really pretty and sweet girl.
Before I sit down, I step into her field of vision to force eye contact/smile - but I don't think it happened.
I could tell that this girl liked talking to me (or liked me talking to her) but she was really shy. (She literally stiffened up and stared forward, yet answered my questions as best she could)
This is something I can see from experience but wouldn't have seen when I started.
This is exactly what you want to do if you run into a shy girl. Just keep talking until she finds something that she can talk about and realizes she's safe.
Like I always say -
DO NOT DISMISS SHYNESS FOR DISINTEREST.
The better looking and/or more intimidating you look - the more you'll run into this, especially if you hit on young girls.
Learn how to handle it (just talk) and don't complain if the girls don't give you have much.
Like guys, some girls are shy and are scared to talk to strangers because they don't want to "mess up". Especially if they like you.
Girl #4 11:02am (No Eye Contact & Smile)
Of all the girls, over the entire day, this is probably the only girl that I feel I "won over".
We genuinely had fun accusing each other of being a player. (this has happened in other videos, like this one)
Nervous Guy, Screening, PUA - whatever type of approach you take, the result is often ALREADY decided before you talk to the girl.
If she isn't sexually-available, provided you look above-average/decent, you won't be getting her number and neither will anyone else.
Remember, the only way you can win girls over if they are at least somewhat interested in the first place (looks threshold).
Despite what you may have been told, you can't win girls over that want nothing to do with you. "Game" is a factor in sexual attraction, a pretty minor one.
To be honest, I haven't ever done a full day of "Nervous Guy" approaches.
I actually find them more difficult than screening at times because there's more talking involved and I can't use my aggressive "moves". This girl totally caught me off guard and it shows - not that I didn't reasonably collect myself. I've never had a girl (upon meeting her during the day) ask how many girls I've slept with, let alone a teenager.
So that's another first for the day.
Girl #5 11:45am (Eye Contact & Smile)
Traffic started to pick up in the park around this time.
This is a perfect example of a girl that looks is TOTALLY INTERESTED but isn't actually available.
You will run into these from time to time.
My advice is to take the girl's number and send her a 1 or 2 word text "Hey Cutie", "Hey Sexxy", from time to time.
She'll let you know when she's single (or available).
While I've certainly slept with new girls that had supposedly had boyfriends, most times it was just after meeting them. It's not a good use of your time to be texting or "working on" girls that have boyfriend or are married.
You should have other options and generally stay away from inviting drama into your life.
That is up to you to decide though.
Girl #6 1:18pm (No Eye Contact & Smile)
This is almost the flip-side of the previous interaction.
This girl is completely wrapped up in her studies and isn't giving me anything whatsoever.
I don't even that she realized that I was there to pick her up. (this will never happen with screening)
Once I get her attention, she shows that I'm interested in her and is more enthusiastic.
She even asks me what I'm doing later that week.
Now, it might look like I won her over (like Girl #4), but I'm not entirely sure that was the case. (she really liked me but I just had to express my intentions)
The argument can be made both ways and I could be wrong.
The part I WISH the camera could show you is -
The girls is giggling and trying to keep a straight face as I continue to talk to her.
You can't really see it and I call her out on it a few times (which you do hear). She seems like she's not interested in even speaking to me but that's not actually the case. I just had to hang in there awhile with a solid "frame" and she eventually gave in because she probably liked me from the start.
Who knows why girls do this.
Sorry for wind interference - there's not a lot we could do about it without killing my voice too.
Girl #7 1:43pm (Eye Contact & Smile)
This is one where I'm able to force myself into the girl's line of sight and see that she was interested. (I was going to talk to her anyway, it was a perfect situation)
She also claims she's shy - but unlike Girl #3, she doesn't have a lot of anxiety.
All of the girls, this girl is the one that seemed the most interested in me from the start.
I didn't quite see that at the time but it's glaringly obvious on the video.
Notice the subjects we talk about - the weather, traffic, etc.
It all "works" when you are excited to talk to someone.
In this situation, when a girl is really into you, take her phone number and call her SOONER than later.
Girl #8 2:38pm (Eye Contact & Smile)
This is how you stop a girl that is running -
Make eye contact and smile.
Then step DIRECTLY IN FRONT of her path.
Start telling/yelling at her to stop when she's 15-20 feet away. Use your hands and voice.
This girl is absolutely beautiful and the video doesn't do her justice.
She is one of the prettiest girls I've seen in a long time. Her face and complexion are just as nice as her figure.
Too bad you can't see her without sunglasses on.
The camera is a good 65+ yards away and I guess we couldn't get a close-up. It's too bad, she is close to perfect.
I don't want to hear anything about how "I'm huge", "I'm ripped", "I'm jacked", and that's the reason I get girls.
I'm 6-2 210, 16 or 17% Bodyfat in this video.
This girl even asks me if I go to the gym because obviously she can't really tell.
I've always done extraordinarily well with "fitness girls" (not female bodybuilders aka guys) because I was always in good shape.
I'm far from in shape for video (although my face is dehydrated and lean) but this girl is interested. They don't stop to talk if they aren't.
By the way -
She's stretching during our chat, she's not picking her butt.
Girl #9 3:17pm (Eye Contact & Smile)
We relocated to another area of the park (it's actually 3 parks that form 1 huge park) and this is probably where we should have shot most of these.
The area is the definition of perfect and allowed for some great shots since there was wooded/bushy areas to put the camera on a tripod.
Of all the girls from the day, I probably had the most in common with this girl.
That kind of thing doesn't really matter that much but it's always nice to find a girl that is friendly and super easy to talk to.
If you run into this, by all means - talk to the girl for as long as you like.
There's no rule saying that you "have to" leave in 4 or 5 minutes - that is just what we suggest because guys that are new to this generally run out of stuff to say since they stress the verbal part so much.
I did a little variation of the typical "Nervous Guy" approach and told her what my friend Derrick always says to girls -
"I don't have any fancy lines and I'm not hitting on you, but I wanted to come tell you [compliment]"
It is more of a "Basic Guy" approach, but it works just fine for Nervous Guys.
Girl #10 3:51pm (Eye Contact & Smile)
Like the first approach, this is something that you won't see very often.
This girl seemed to figure out that something strange was going on and we had been filming these. Oh well.
For a lot of guys, being "called-out" for hitting on girls, is their very worst fear.
It's not a big deal and this is basically what you can expect.
Sure, there might be worse reactions to it, but it's rare.
But listen -
At some point, we can't hold your hand forever.
As much as I've designed stuff (Nervous Guy, Approach Anxiety Program - Baby Steps) to help you make progress while shielding you from rejection - you will get non-favorable reactions sometimes and that is something that you are going to have accept if you want to do this stuff.
Those "non-favorable reactions" are generally never as bad as you think they might be, especially with a "Nervous Guy" approach.
If you think what happens in this video is a huge deal or might push you to suicide, maybe you better off with online dating or just watching this stuff from the comfort of your own home.
Hitting on random girls is for men.
We called it a day after this approach since I had the camera crew until 4pm.
You (and I) will get more phone numbers with a safe "Nervous Guy" approach.
The less aggressive you are, the more harmless you are - the more phone numbers you will get.
That is one reason why the entire pickup artist thing is popular and appears in videos to work really well, it's "safe game".
If you are funny, sweet or harmless, most girls will give you their phone numbers because they don't want to be rude.
Despite what some people think, the vast majority of girls are cool with talking to random guys, even guys they aren't interested in.
Non-aggressive safe game, however, isn't the best thing if you are looking to get laid. Screening is.
Still, Nervous Guy Game is a great fairly-rejection-proof alternative until you are more comfortable with being aggressive.
Although I tend to get considerably more legit phone numbers (as compared to other guys that do this stuff - I'm supposed to be good at this stuff, right?), as with all of our videos - some of the girls were sexually available and willing to see me again - some were not and I'll probably never hear from them again.
I wish someone had told me to do "Nervous Guy Game" when I started this stuff in late 2006.
But the only solutions were -
Just go talk to 1000's of girls (hard)
Do nothing, write on PUA forums (useless)
Had there been someone (who gets a lot of action) encouraging me to take this approach, I would I have talked to more girls, I would have beaten Approach Anxiety faster and gotten laid in the process.
I also would have hit the beginning of my prime at age 26-27, instead of age 29.
Look guys -
Brian (Scotty) and I are the biggest advocates of aggressive IN or OUT pickup. (screening)
In an organized theoretical sense (this website) - we "invented" it.
We haven't gone soft.
It's only reason I'm sitting here today and legitimately qualified to give you insight from experience on what actually works, what sort of works, what is unnecessary and what doesn't work.
For a lot of guys, however, being aggressive is not practical if you've spent 20-25+ years of your life being timid with women/the universe.
Nervous Guy Game and our Approach Anxiety Program bridge that gap.
Had I realized how effective Nervous Guy Game was for beginners, I would have been talking about it in 2012, ahead of 'Screening'.
But better late than never.
There will be some guys that have too much pride (form of approach anxiety) to even try this type of thing.
The idea of admitting that they are nervous to a girl or to themself is repulsing.
While they will be able to salvage their pride by DOING NOTHING or some half-ass "aggressive pickup" where they can accuse the girl of be "uncool" - pride is all they will be taking home.
Don't be that guy.
This 'Nervous Guy Thing' is a gift to world.
And A launching pad to what will become a great sex life of you stick with it and get in great shape.
If you take the leap of faith to look your best, dress cool/edgy and current and do this type of approach for as long as it takes to get a few bed buddies (or a girlfriend) - you will never be lonely again. I promise you.
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