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We are going to take an in-depth look at "edging" and cite academic research from several prestigious institutions, including some Ivy League universities. (there are links to various books in this discussion, these are not affiliate links)
At the beginning of 2012 I began a quest to improve my overall sexual health.
I had done PE for years, had a good dick but my sexual health was pretty suspect.
He told me that "jerking off, but not getting off, a bunch of times helps a ton," "almost masturbating" he calls it.
What he was talking about was a process called "edging," virtually every guy in adult film that cums on camera practices it.
If you've ever masturbated but held back your orgasm a few times, then you've at least done a little edging.
As I learned, in addition to the Cialis (and other performance enhancers- see the last few minutes of video at the BOTTOM of this page), the majority of guys that are at least semi-serious about adult film actually have very good sexual health, strong PC muscles and way better control of their orgasms than average guys and certainly myself at the time.
They are more "in touch" with their dicks, as Boomer says. (basically a better mind-muscle/penis connection)
The good news is- it didn't take long at all for my PC muscles and orgasm control to catch up to my size. Both are pretty good now.
My cum shoots and can hold back my orgasm 3 or 4 times during intercourse, those were my goals.
Nothing off the hook, but coupled with my size, enough to have most girls say I'm great in bed. Much stronger orgasms on my end too.
A little can go along way for most guys.
Just edging a few times a week can yield significant dividends, especially if your overall sexual health and control is on the 'average' side, like mine was.
This is especially important if your penis has been growing, you'll need extra blood flow to support the extra inches.
The process can actually be reasonably fun (well, as fun as teasing yourself can be) if accompanied with the Fleshlight, or similar device.
The hardest is not finishing the orgasm.
Don't let the gimmicky look of some of these devices fool you- edging with these can be quite challenging because it feels very much like a real pussy, especially if you use warm oil.
Also, it's ideal and beneficial to 'practice' with a condom on in the Fleshlight.
The Fleshlight is an example of an 'edging device'.
What is Edging?
Edging is a sexual process that involves bringing yourself very close to orgasm but stopping before you cum.
Edging is done in sessions that last about 20 minutes each, so you will stop yourself from ejaculating numerous times. Teaching yourself not to cum as soon as you feel the urge is a beneficial skill that will enhance your sex life.
Increase sperm count: Less ejaculation = sperm that is more dense.
Allow you to experience multiple orgasms.
Promote blood flow, recovery and erection quality as a supplement for a PE routine.
Taking It To The Edge
Edging is the #1 way for men to accomplish improved – heightened – and mind-blowing orgasms.
Edging is easy to do and even easier to learn.
Learning to edge is a win-win situation; you get to enjoy the sensation of masturbating for the purpose of improving your orgasms. In addition, learning how to 'peak' creates wave-like patterns which trigger the pleasure hormones called endorphins, according to the book “Making Love Better Than Ever" written by sexpert Dr.Barbara Koesling.
It's good for you, so long as it doesn't encourage compulsive masturbation.
Edging, by definition, is not masturbation.
How To Edge
Before you start edging, you should become familiar with the different levels of arousal.
The more you practice edging, the more familiar you will become with how you feel at each level.
This is the mind/muscle (dick) connection that we mentioned earlier.
Stages of Arousal: From Uninterested to Orgasm
Beginners might wants to cut themselves off around Level 7. Reaching Level 9 several times during intercourse and pulling back is what we are shooting for.
You should also be familiar the following terms-
Emission phase of ejaculation(phase 1)/Level 9 Contractions force semen into the urethral bulb. During this stage, you can feel the prostate – seminal vesicles – and vas deferens contract. If not stopped, a full ejaculation (phase 2) will result within seconds of the emission phase (phase 1).
Expulsion phase of ejaculation(phase 2)/Level 10 A full ejaculation; semen stored in the urethral bulb is forced out in a pulsating manner.
Point Of No Return (PONR) You are on the verge of cumming and there is no turning back. You are going to cum at any cost.
Before you begin:
Find a comfortable, quiet/silent location
Have lubricant (and any device you are using for stamina)
Set a timer (some guys prefer to count their strokes, I find this is too distracting, set a stop watch on your cell phone)
When you have everything you need, begin your edging session.
You will climb“Arousal Mountain”– STOPand bring yourself down a few levels – and then start climbing again.
You will accomplish this by following this step-by-step guide- (it's pretty self-explanatory though)
Step 1: Stimulate Yourself
Arouse yourself until your penis is hard. Pay attention to everything you feel, and fully experience every sensation.
This is why it helps to be in a silent location -- focus 100% of your focus on your dick, the sensation and don't let your mind wander.
Be present, as they say.
Step 2: Climb Arousal Mountain
Lubricate your penis and slowly stroke it by beginning at the base and moving toward the top.
You should avoid touching several areas in the beginning of your edging session.
One is the penile fraenulum, which is a band of tissue located on the underside of the glans (head) of the penis.
The 'Penile Frenulum' is the area at the top of the underside of your penis. Hold off on stimulating this area as much as you can.
The second area you should avoid touching is the entire head, including the corona.
The corona is the raised border located at the base of the head.
Try to avoid stimulating the penis head too. The 'Corona' is the part on the backside of the head, in a similar area as the fraenulum.
The fraenulum and corona are extremely sensitive and reactive, which is why you shouldn't stimulate them to soon.
Step 3: Stop
Option 1 Pay attention so you know when you are getting close to your PONR.
When you feel you are near the expulsion phase, begin to move your hand down the shaft of your penis and stop arousing yourself before you reach your PONR.
Option 2 Stop yourself between level 4 and 8.
For the first 2 weeks or so, we recommend option #2.
If you've never done this, don't expect it to be super easy.
Step 4: Bring Yourself Down a Few Levels
Wait for your arousal level to drop a few levels.
You don't have to do anything special just stop/slow down on touching yourself.
You will need to inhale and exhale slowly and deeply during this time.
Take control of your cock and your thoughts by fully experiencing every sensation rather than ignoring them.
As you get better at this, it may seem like your orgasm (and a ocean of cum) is going back up into your body.
If you feel this 'backwards rush' - you are on the right track.
Step 5: Climb Again
If you chose option 1 When you feel you are no longer going to ejaculate, start arousing yourself again. Repeat steps 3 and 4 as many times as necessary in 20 minutes.
If you chose option 2 Start climbing Arousal Mountain again.
Every time you stop, you should try to do so at a level higher than the previous one.
She says, “If you don't get up to Level 8 or Level 9 the first time, that's okay; you will with practice. Ultimately, you will need to be able to peak at very high levels.
This is not hard once you get used to the whole process of peaking.
Step 6: Shut It Down
After edging for 20 minutes – STOP – and do not allow yourself to ejaculate.
Put your penis away, and refocus your mind on something else.
Edging and Kegels: How Kegels are Involved in Edging
Kegels, also called pelvic floor muscle exercises, make your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle stronger.
To perform a kegel, you simply flex your PC muscle.
To do this, tightly squeeze your PC muscle as if you are stopping yourself from urinating.
See if you can stop yourself from ejaculating by performing a kegel. It certainly takes strength and practice.
According to the 2005 British Journal of Urology, kegels should be regarded as a first-line method for men who are attempting to find a long-term solution for ED.
Reverse Kegels or Squeeze Out Pelvic Floor Exercise
Just as it is important to perform back exercises along with ab work for balance, it is equally important to practice reverse kegels as well as regular ones.
To perform a reverse kegel, you flex the PC muscle as if you are pushing urine out.
When you are edging and are near your PONR, you can do 3-5 powerful reverse kegels to stop from cumming.
Can Edging Promote Penis Growth?
Edging can encourage penis growth and recovery when combined and practiced after jelqing and penis stretching sessions.
In short- penis enhancement, especially girth-catalyst exercises such as jelqing, break down penile tissue (just as resistance training does to skeletal muscle) and can potentially hurt erection quality as the tissues becomes wider. Edging greatly encourages blood flow to have stretched tissue and maximizes erection quality.
Can Edging Promote/Develop Multiple Orgasms Capability For Men?
The short answer: Yes, when you combine edging and PC exercises (kegels), you can become multi-orgasmic.
More evidence: According to the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI), some men say they have always been multi-orgasmic, whereas others reported having multiple orgasms later in life. Still, other men stated that they actively learned to have multiple orgasms.
Can Edging Allow Men To Have "Dry Orgasms”?
The answer is yes, according to PE Gym and Men's Health Magazine. (Men's Health is loaded with generic crap from writers that have never done what they are telling other guys to do, but they are correct in this case)
A dry orgasm is just as it sounds- an orgasm minus ejaculation. Much like women have.
Guys that are seasoned vets to edging attest to having dry orgasms, usually having their first few during edging sessions.
It is mainly a product of significant orgasm control- stepping slightly over the 'Point of No Return' (PONR) into Orgasm, but not ejaculating.
The key is to HOLD BACK when approaching orgasm. At that point you will either ejaculate into your bladder (this is harmless) or have a dry orgasm. It will take some practice. Once you have one, you'll usually have a good idea how to do it again.
Dry orgasms allow you to be multi-orgasmic. After you have an orgasm without cumming, you will be able to have at least one dry orgasm – and then have an ejaculatory orgasm at the end.
Can Edging Promote 'Wet Dreams'?
Edging may cause 'wet dreams.'
As Columbia University explains- if you don't cum at the end of an edging session, you may experience wet dreams because the body is prone to look for its own method of release.
How Much Control Of His Orgasm(s) Can A Man REALLY Have?
Guys can gain complete control of their orgasm if he sets his mind and develops his muscle for it.He will have to commit to practicing edging and kegels on a regular basis, but the result can be worth the effort.
Guys generally get pretty good at it, pretty quickly.
Are There Any “Side Effects” To Edging?
No, there are not any side effects associated with edging.
However, you can experience fatigue if you do not perform kegels with the proper form, if you do not allow your body to recover, or if you do too many kegels.