How to Control Your Emotions & Avoid Oneitis
Relationship and Oneitis (Part 2)
(by: Rooster, Good Looking Loser Contributor/Livestock)
Here’s some strategies and thoughts that Rooster complied from his own journey-
- Ask every girl that you are interested in for her number. And Call her with intention to meet up and sleep with her.
The #1 way to control oneitis is to ALWAYS be dating and/or fucking multiple women at a time until it mostly goes away.Preferably each of these girls is similar to each other in the quality of their looks.If you’re inexperienced, and have yet been able to fuck more than one woman at a time, I highly encourage you to make that your main goal.Even establishing a “rotation” of 2 fuckbuddies can do WONDERS for most guys’ confidence.The only reason that ‘screening’ was born for Chris was because he had 2 fuckbuddies and didn’t give a shit about how anyone treated him at the time. The attitude remained.If you’re a monogamous guy, looking for a rewarding relationship, you need to prove to yourself that you’re able to get laid and that you have sexual options.
If you were dumped tomorrow, you need to ACTUALLY BELIEVE that you can go fuck a new girl within a month, preferably sooner. If you’re able to fuck a girl without investing a lot of time and effort, it will help greatly.
For the best guide EVER WRITTEN on managing uncommitted relationships, see- “Retention by Good Looking Loser”
- If you’re currently still “hurting” from a oneitis breakup, go fuck as many women as you can.
You need to prove to yourself that you can Get Laid so that is no longer one of the reasons that you need/get/stay in relationships.
“Proving” something to YOURSELF is NOT superficial. I don’t give a shit what any beta says about this (hah).
You have A LOT you need to prove to yourself if you are going to be anything special in this life.
Trying to prove stuff to other people for validation can be. But we aren’t talking about that.Most guys that are stuck on their ex-girlfriend are in no state to approach women.I recommend using “Rooster’s Guide to Plenty of Fish” until you are back on your feet.Even going out with a girl, being seen in public with her and giving her a good night kiss will significantly help move the healing process along.
- Identity dependancies.
Often ask yourself if you’re dependent on any girl (or person) for anything, where the need comes from and how you can fix it.Be aware of these negative emotions.Don’t accept those feelings as a normal part of the process.You can analyze past relationships (which probably suggest the same conclusion) but be on the look out for needy behaviors with the new girls you meet.Its one thing to feel some negative/needy emotions, that’s almost guaranteed to happen.
What’s most important to not act on them and take it as a sign that you need to bring other chicks on board. Be aware that it’s not a part of a healthy relationship, why it happens, and how to fix it.
In my early 20′s, I used to stare at my phone for hours, calculating the time in between calls (there wasn’t texting back then) and brainstorming/daydreaming about what the girl was doing. Now, I don’t even remember if I called the girl or if I even thought she was cool. I literally don’t care about the girl until she impresses me. So turning obsession to authentic ’indifference’ is COMPLETELY possible, you just need to get some action.
- Continually update and improve your sex appeal.
Always look for different ways for improvement.Continue to workout, diet, and embrace an at-least-somewhat edgy style.
- Slowly increase your standards and find more quality women.
Even if you don’t bang them, you’ll see that they are at least interested in you and not super scary.Oneitis often always comes from a girl that’s much more attractive than what you’re used to. With improved sex appeal, social freedom and hitting the numbers you can fuck just as hot or hotter girls than you previously did.For more information, see – “A Sense of Entitlement”
- View your personal life with women as constant progress.
The more you date, and the more women you fuck, the better you become with women, as well as the higher quality and quantity will become available. As time goes on, more meaningful longer-term solid relationships can develop. If a break-up happens, you learn from it. You accept it. And you move on.
I’ll talk about this in detail later.
The ONE MANDATORY REQUIREMENT for being in a relationship is- YOU CAN GET LAID and the girl knows it.
You’ll both know that you are in the relationship because you WANT to be and not because you NEED to be.
- Get some Kratom!
As I have mentioned many times over, kratom helps out for a lot of different things… and this is definitely one of them. It stabilizes and increases your mood.Even if you just got dumped and have no sexual experience, kratom is going to make things a lot easier to deal with.It gives you the needed positive mood and helps you focus on getting some experience!!
- Have a contact list of old fuckbuddies or even old relationships always on your phone.
(not your latest ex, only add her if she contacts you)This may take some time to build up a list like that, but knowing there’s a good chance pussy is just a phone call away can really help.Mass text them “hey sexy” and call the first one that bites.
- Have big goals and drive in life. Have a life.
Don’t make her the center of your life.Think of her more as just along for the ride in your awesome life.This is a topic all to itself, and developing a passion is easier said than done. You might have to try a few things.Have something you’re always legitimately excited about.
What it comes down to though is…
Fucking more than one girl at a time is the best solution to avoid and destroy oneitis, but if you don’t know how to have girls stay around in your life, you’ll likely have a lot of difficulty.
Learning how to do so can be the result of girls chasing you, instead of the other way around.
Simple things like you not labeling a relationship, seeing her just once a week and fucking her very well can make all the difference.
If you are really starting making significant progress and sleeping with a couple of women a month, be aware of all that we’ve discussed.
If you are pretty inexperienced, be even more aware, you are at the highest risk.
If you want a monogamous girlfriend, the same still definitely applies, if not more.
Being able to control your emotions will only make your relationships better.
An end to any relationship can suck, but how much it sucks can really varies on how you can deal with it, and your lifestyle.
Your reaction could be-
“Oh well, on to the next one!!”
“That’s okay; I’m excited to meet more women.”
Instead of the usual-
“Oh no… this is going to drastically affect my mood for the next weeks or months…”
“I’m never going to find another like her…”
I’m not saying to try and block out love or anything like that.
It’s definitely possible you could date a lot of these girls long-term, but the issues are becoming overly emotionally invested quickly before spending significant time with her.
It’s like having a governor on your long-term happiness.
Be aware of these negative powerful emotions, and stop them from controlling you.
Go Get Some!