Screening Game: A New Look At “Rejection”
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This is a super important post if you are still having trouble hitting on hot girls or have issues with ‘rejection’.
If you’ve met me, read “Get Laid or Get Lost,” read “Help! It’s Weird Going Up To A Random Chick and Hitting on Her!” or all 3 – you probably have an idea of how we immediately approach, “screen” and “filter” the chicks that we meet.
I teach SCREENING GAME. I teach you to how to attract cool girls that are down-to-fuck and girls that are sexually available. I teach you how to Get Laid.
I don’t teach “I Hope She Likes Me” game.
I don’t teach “how to convince her to speak to you, how to get into a conversation, how to make her like me, then how to make her laugh, then how to show I’m interested- but not too much, then how to make her feel comfortable, then how to kiss her, then how to touch her…” None of that. I used to do that junk. It primarily gets you conversations and phone numbers, sexually-charged physical screening gets you pussy.
There’s a big difference.
Here’s the difference- “Mr. Funny Man vs. Mr. Pussy Inspector”
Screen that Pussy, No more “Rejection”
I’m not one of those PUAs that is going to purpose that he has the mindset, technique or line to get every- cool, smart, hot, boring, married, single, bisexual, pornstar, athletic, druggie, rich, celebrity, tall, short, fat, thin, model, poor, young, old, college, milf, cougar, geeky, high fashion, goofy, depressed or happy- girl to like you.
I can teach you how to bang hot girls though.
If you are using sexual-charged material and physical advances to screen girls, you won’t actually be getting rejected… EVER.
Not in the traditional sense anyway. Only guys that run “I hope she likes me” game get rejected. We run SCREENING GAME.
You will be getting girls that are sexually available. You’ll be screening out or “getting rejected” by girls that are not sexually available. You will be gaming from a position of power and not from “I hope she likes me..” mindset which is largely technique based.
You will do the screening and selecting, they chicks will let you know if they are sexually available.
With the correct screening techniques and mindset, you’ll be getting girls that are sexy, smart, cool, have a sense of humor and are down-to-fuck (at least in the near future). In process, you’ll be filtering out girls that are nonsexual, boring or emotionally unhealthy. Those girls are not worth “working on”. You are trying to Get Laid, not trying to stealthy convince girls of something.
There’s plenty of exciting hot girls that love to have sex. Those are the girls I get. Those are the girls Scotty gets. The chicks aren’t necessarily that sexually experienced either, they just dig cool ALPHA guys and know we can give them a GREAT experience.
We screen chicks to see if they are worth talking to
Elite guys screen and test chicks.
We test girls. They don’t test us.
Usually it’s the other way around-
Guy timidly approaches girl with some submissive boring, generic, needy line- “Excuse me. May I buy you are drink?”
Girl decides if the guy is worth a drink and 5 minutes of her time.
Guy tries to impress or keep a 5 minute conversation going by trying to find commonalities, “Where are you from?” “What do you do?” “What do you do for fun?”
Girl decides if the guys is worth 5 more minutes of her time.
We do things differently-
Guy smiles and approaches girl to screen her- with a dominant funny, sexually-charged screening line – “Hey, this may be a little random but I thought you were attractive and I wanted to come what you were like.”
Girl says “Thank you,” or nothing. (or leaves)
Guy wait for a second, smiles and says, “Umm… Well…. Aren’t you gonna tell me I’m attractive too? [that's a little rude]”
Girl says says so and laughs. (or leaves)
Guy says, “I’m [name],” and extends his hand.
Girl says, “I’m [name],” and shakes his hand.
Guy says, “Wow nice handshake, I think I’m going to hire my bodyguard.”
Girls laughs. (or leaves)
Guy touches and squeezes her arm and says, “No seriously, you got a license for those guns?”
Girl laughs. (or leaves)
^ Girls that are SEXUALLY AVAILABLE will respond positively to this type of material.
^ Girls that are boring, dumb, without a sense of humor or nonsexual won’t.
That’s what happens basically every time. Try it. Get them in or get out. Screen that pussy!!!
After a few minutes of flirting with a chick – whisper in her ear, “I bet you’re delicious.” and kiss her neck.
She’ll either get really excited or she’ll leave.
Emotionally Healthy Girls Like Being Screened
Hot chicks like to be screened – it’s different and fun for them when it’s done in lighthearted way.
Hot girls are used to generic boring guys or try-hard guys that try to impress them.
It’s rare that they run into an aggressive confidence guy an “asshole” that is screening them in funny but half-serious manner. This is really attractive to girls, especially the hottest chicks. Girls love a challenge, girls love to get the chance to impress guys. Even if its just a game. But we don’t often give them the chance to try to though. Instead of letting girls screen or filter you – screen and filter them.
Many guys think that how a girl reacts to his approach is a reflection of him.
That’s not the case if you use our material. Our material is meant to screen girls.
How a girl reacts is a reflection of her and specifically- her sexual present availability.
Hot chicks that have a sense of humor like to get laid… That’s what I’ve found anyway.
Remember – You Are Supposed to Filter Girls Out or Get “Rejected”
I can’t stress this enough: if you are being aggressive and taking the “Get Laid or Get Lost” mentality – you should be effectively filtering out girls out or getting incompatible girls to leave. That’s the point. It’s not just simply a “different way” to interpret rejection – it’s the reality. You aren’t going to get every girl, you don’t want every girl – not every girl is hot, cool, smart, funny and sexually available.
A Personal Experience with Not Filtering Out A Girl (one of many)
I was at Saddle Ranch in West Hollywood on a Thursday night in October 2009. I approached a hot chick named Whitney who looked like she was in great shape. I ran the exact same lines that I mentioned above, I told her “Stop being a creeper, if you’re going to stare at me, you should at least say hi.” She laughed. I said, “No really, you’re looking at me like I’m a big ice cream cone and you just want to lick me up and down.” She laughed and introduced herself. I went physical right away and grabbed her bicep, “You think your tough? Do you have a license for these guns?” She pulled away right away and said she didn’t like anyone touching her. I said, “Well how about if I do this?” and began to lightly punch her stomach (this girl had a near 6-six of abs, she was a celebrity personal trainer). She pulled away again.
I immediately started talking to her friend Gina instead and used the same techniques. I grabbed her bicep she laughed and started flexing then she grabbed mine. I lightly punched her in the stomach and she flexed her stomach. I ignored Whitney and kept flirting with Gina for the next 20 minutes. As I started touching Gina more she said that was actually married but that I should take Whitney’s number. I respectfully said, “Okay, maybe so.” I returned my attention to sexy Whitney and just chatted with her in a non-aggressive manner for about 15 minutes. I took Whitney’s number and left.
Two days later, I called Whitney and invited her over to my place. Whitney was excited and came over. It was chilly October night and I figured we could put our feet in the hot tub and I could heat her up. When Whitney got to my place we did some small talk, played some Nintendo Wii, she had a drink and seemed to relax.
I thought to myself – okay good, this uptight girl is finally chilling out.
Right when we sat down next to each other with our feet in the hot tub, Whitney starts giving me a speech, “Chris, I think you are cool, but you just can’t put your hands on me. I remember you trying to touch my stomach the other night when I told you not to. And Don’t think about kissing me either – I don’t do that until the 3rd date. Sometimes you have to wait until the 4th date.”
I smiled and ignored what she said, “Poor Whitney. You’ve had a hard day.” and I put my hands on her shoulders and began to give her a massage.
Whitney freaks out and starts yelling, “You can’t touch me! Get off me! Get off me Chris!”
At this point I realized that I never should have had this crazy girl come over. I had screened her on a Thursday Night and she failed. Sure enough, she was a nonsexual girl with some sort of emotional problem. That was apparent within 2 minutes of meeting her. I should have just trusted my instincts and not wasted my time on her. But I didn’t and now I was sitting on the edge of a hot tub with a psycho prude girl instead of being out with one of my other girls, meeting other girls or watching college football.
I sent Whitney home right after that.
That’s not the first time I ended up at my place with a girl that I hadn’t screened well enough up front. I was not getting anywhere quick with that chick and neither was anyone else. Not only was she nonsexual, but she was weird. Despite her nice looks and killer body, this wasn’t a girl that was going to good in bed or cool enough for me to chill with. I knew that when I met her but I overlooked it.
Screening is for real. You won’t end up with boring girls, nonsexual girls or psychos if you screen them out.
Thankfully, by October 2009, I had plenty of experience handling and screening sexy girls and I easily realized that Whitney’s tantrum was her own problem and not mine. She’s hot and probably a decent person, but we weren’t compatible and I wasn’t interested anymore.
Lesson learned. Again.
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Hi, It’s all part of the process. This may sound uncomfortable but there are ways to train your mind to make these learning processes easier. great article sir
wtf are you
Damn… Just “damn”.
This is *almost* revolutionary bro.You’re introducing a whole new paradigm.
One issue is that because you call it “game” is that you’ll just seem like “another sleazy pua guru”, so it might get overlooked. People’s minds like to stereotype and classify things.
If everyone in the community adopted this tommorow, it would make for much happier guys. Unfortunately, it seems like guys have to pass the stage of trying to learn “how to attract” before they get what you’re talking about. In other words, the guys who need this the most are the guys who aren’t ready for it yet.
Thanks bro! I REALLY appreciate your praise and open-mindedness… Seriously, this feedback motivates me to tell people about my experiences and build gll.com. I’m really new to building a website and “blogging,” so I really have to work on communicating (whether via text/audio) what I mean to you guys. YOU got me to really think about stuff and remember the psychological change that I made (by accident sort of) that got me to an elite level…
I think I hit the ‘ceiling’ that non-screening/mr. funny man game is capable of. A few lays here and there, mostly conversations and girls STILL profiling me a ‘boyfriend’ material. I wasn’t getting the amount of girls that the PU industry “promised” me so to speak. Nobody does (it seems) until they go out to Get Laid. It’s a different mission and actually EASIER than trying to convert those conversations and phone numbers to sex. Basically, you’ll ALWAYS be talking to the right chicks if you screen them and they stay.
My jaw dropped when I saw that Scotty was banging girls in ~20 minutes. Girls look at him and they know what he’s about… they can take it or leave it. Not surprisingly on any given day/night there’s a handful of hot girls that WANT IT. Truth be told, girls (especially the hottest chicks) only want to be fucked by a top 1% guy on a one-night-stand/fuckbuddy rotation. Guys, on the other hand, will bang just about any girl that is down. Only the top 1% guys authentically screen girls… because well… they can, they are cool and they got an endless supply of hot chicks at their disposal.
That’s an interesting point about the ‘game’ label… there’s a stereotype of it like you say. I feel weird saying “approach”… when I really mean- screen. I have a feeling that the average guy can see gll.com and know that “there’s something different about these guys,” haha.. i hope so anyway!
I’ll be honest. The only reason I gave your site a chance is because Aaaron Sleazy links to you. If I had stumbled onto it, a quick skim would have made me think it’s another stupid PUA site.
I like your stuff in terms of mindset, but I’m not yet convinced that it actually has these powers.
I’m not saying it doesn’t. What I’m saying is that there’s nothing in terms of the science that allows me to say that “screening makes the hottest chicks want to fuck you more”. It might, or it might not… Unless you run a spreadsheet and get wildly different results with screening vs. average guy game, it’s just an anecdotal feeling. And let’s face it, even the crappiest pua methods have a guy behind them who has an “anecdotal feeling” that the method works in magical ways that beat the numbers-game.
Maybe the success rate is the same as average-guy-game, maybe it’s much better… I don’t know… but one thing is for sure – ITS EMPOWERING and healthy for a guy to have this mindset/paradigm.
I mean the “screen chicks for DTF” mindset is infinitely healthier than the “make chicks want to fuck you” paradigm or “make her like you” or “pump random chicks’ interest levels” or any of that other bullshit based on giving random chicks unearned value.
The problem with all those other paradigms is that you have decided you want her before you even talk to her – so of course you “feel rejected” if it doesn’t work out.
While some PUA gurus tell guys “oh oh, just learn to love rejection, just get rack up rejections until you don’t give a fuck” —–> I think that’s seriously fucked up shit, it’s just not healthy for you. And there’s absolutely nothing good about giving random chicks value they haven’t earned.
Screener mentality is better for you mentally, and it’s better for society (you don’t boost the egos of random chicks who’ve done nothing to deserve it).
TL:DR -> I think you’re onto something here dude. If you work on this and work the marketing to really differentiate yourself from the community, you can really make it far.
There’s a really huge anti-game wave going on right now where the community is imploding. Tens of thousands of guys who spent years trying all sorts of methods and getting nowhere – all disillusioned and shit. IF you can offer them an alternative to the community, you will do well.
>>>I like your stuff in terms of mindset, but I’m not yet convinced that it actually has these powers.
I’m not saying it doesn’t. What I’m saying is that there’s nothing in terms of the science that allows me to say that “screening makes the hottest chicks want to fuck you more”. It might, or it might not… Unless you run a spreadsheet and get wildly different results with screening vs. average guy game, it’s just an anecdotal feeling. And let’s face it, even the crappiest pua methods have a guy behind them who has an “anecdotal feeling” that the method works in magical ways that beat the numbers-game.
Chris says:
yeah, these social experiments have way too many variables to be sure. I gotta go by my personal experience man- traditional PU game I was getting 1 girl every 4-8 weeks. Once I switched it up for my screening game, no less than 3 chicks a month. Now it’s so hard isolate what really improved my game- was it the screening game? or was that I was getting really good from all the approaches? or was it because I was already sleeping with 3 girls when I starting doing ONLY screen game. I tell you what- it was everything. I ran the ‘average guy [front] game’ and had GREAT results, results along the lines of what ‘screening game’ gets me.. I’ll suggest this though- a phone number from screening game (sexually charged conversation + physical advances) is WAY more solid than non aggressive, average, ‘i hope she likes me game’. So if I ever got 47 numbers when screening chicks… It would be a lot more lays than ‘average game’… At the same time Alek- I did follow up my ‘average guy game’ with aggressive screening text… so, as i mention, the 7lays is [likely] higher than if I had continued the average guy game.
all in all, my 100% belief in screening chicks is based on the success I had, but also the success I didn’t get in ~12-14months of regular PU game. I don’t have a spreadsheet for you but I’m 1000% sure that I get significantly better results from screening chicks. A note on screening though, a lot of this is calibration. Meaning, if I were to approach a nice-so-attractive girl, I would not screen her. I would be funny, warm and give lots of compliments. On hot chicks, I screen them. Different game. Especially the chicks in LA.
I gotta tell you bud– go out and screen! Chicks like it, the hot ones think its different and fun. the stuff that they’ve told me after I slept with them… instant feedback. that’s the way to tell
it takes time to learn your screening ‘threshold’ and how much screening you need based on the chick. serious bro- prove me right haha
oh and– it’s not the ‘screening’ that makes it work, its the mindset… you know what I mean?
and i fully agree- the PUA’s advice “don’t care what she thinks,” “rejection is cool,” it’s just garbage… but if you have read Sleezy, you know that a lot of these guys are below average with chicks (getting laid), Screening changes the game, or at least your mindset
Dude, I used to co-own a workshop company some years ago, we even had online training. Our instructors were pretty decent (at least they got results, though they did a ton of work for it), but I got to meet a lot of gurus and do a lot of ventures.
The community is pretty fucking pathetic overall. Now it has changed a lot since then, but only for the worse from what I’ve been told. It’s even worse than Sleazy paints it as.
^^^ I hear ya. That’s sort of why I don’t “consider gll.com” a community website… I’m not a ‘community guy’ and our stuff is for EVERYBODY… anyone who wants to get some. Most of the guys that visit here (100-200 a day) are from the pu community. i want to mainstream this stuff, i wonder which audience it will appeal to most
Just my humble opinion…
I think you can appeal most to people who are leaving the community, ie. the same people as Aaron sleazy. A lot of people are waking up to the bullshit of the community. Some of them go bitter and give up, but some know there’s non-community stuff that must work.
If you can find a way to be in between mainstream stuff and anti-community stuff, you can do well. I don’t know how you’d attract mainstream crowd, but appealing to community deserters is easy, just do what Aaron did – criticize the community and your stuff will go viral. Like “here’s 20 ways community gets it wrong and here’s how it can be 10x easier”.
That’s funny you say that- I want to mainstream stuff haha but honestly, (scotty and I were talking about this the other day)… we are so far detached from reality and normal people.. the stuff we do, girls we sleep with, the way we live, the risks we take (ive settled down)– it’s just weird to most people i guess.
like this- a later part of our sexual anxiety program involves driving to the mall, undressing in the drivers seat, getting out and hoping in the back of your car and masturbating… while laying down. that one step helps beat sexual anxiety more than all the ebooks, cds, dvds, pua guru stuff that exists haha .. gotta push it if you’re gonna change!
GLL, you might be onto something here. It’s certainly a refreshing change from the woman-oriented PUA shit I’ve seen (and people have tried to sell me) previously.
My biggest problem with traditional PUA skills is all about “the hottest chicks” and “the most sex.” Fuck that noise. Not all sex is created equal. Have you seen the Paris Hilton sex tape? Zero enthusiasm.
Finding DTF, sexually-liberated and enthusiastic women was a crucial skill for me to have where I used to live – a small, conservative, bible-belt city dominated by a large Christian college.
And you know – I could hypothetically see how this technique could actually increase the number of “successful” pickups in a month – by quickly weeding out the dead ends, you don’t waste more time than you have to on them and can move on to wetter pastures.
Note: I am not saying that the methods you’re using to “filter” are actually increasing your ratio of approaches/lays – I’m just saying that by quickly weeding out non-lays, you can get more approaches in during a set period of time, resulting in more lays in that set period of time.
yup all the above that you said is true. It’s also so you don’t give pictured as “a boyfriend” and the girls make you wait for sex because she doesn’t want to be judged and wants some emotional investment on your behalf. (that was a super common thing for me)
are you in South Carolina? I lived there once. sounds like it haha
definitely not all sex is equal. when you’re in a big city though, a lot of the hotties will be great in bed too, there’s just simply more pussy in big cities, you know? also, in my experience- inexperienced chicks tend to respond less favorably to quick physical advances (but def not always). so I tend to end up with experienced, wild chicks… but not always obviously
thanks for your comment!
“are you in South Carolina? I lived there once. sounds like it haha.”
-I’m from greenville sc. In general there are a lot of conservative girls. I would like to here your thoughts and experience in south carolina?
Nice.. I know the place!
I went to Furman University briefly… yeah Greenville is way conservative (Bob Jones, haha)
I didn’t have good game and I did really well there, I’m a mixed race (Greek and Japanese) and the girls would dig it. Furman and Greenville wasn’t for me, although I didn’t take advantage of it as much as I should have. Furman was beautiful though. Some decent memories from that place and Tiki Bobs
Yea one of my buddies is a mixed guy, sort of looks like you. He does pretty good with girls, but he’s also the bouncer… I’ve met some pretty furman girls at the bars. But i have found a lot of southern girls wont go all the way on the first time. I tend to get way more bj’s then lays, but i do meet some who are dtf right away. Did you have a similar experience?
What is your opinion on the Gunwitch method? Seems similar.
http://gunwitch.fastseduction.com/
Hey man, no idea what that method is– I’m not really familiar with a lot of the methods/systems
can you explain how it works?
Basically be “sexual”, dont hide your (aggressive), touch them early on, move her to a isolated location etc.
“Look YOUR best, see lone wolf, realize she loves sex, get sexually turned on for her, approach her in sexual state, convey sexual state to her, get to know her while in sexual state, watch for her sexual state, isolate.”
Yeah I like that… I think the key difference is that nothing is ‘for her’, everything is on your terms and part of a larger screening process to see if the girl is worth speaking to rather than ‘getting turned on for her’ or ‘[try] to get to know her in a sexual state’… it all about screening your to she if she’s sexually available and then you decide to take it or leave it… does make sense?
nothing is reactive, or meant to get her to like/feel/be a certain way
even the aggressive stuff- it’s not in any shape or form good ‘because it works’ its simply the best way (imo) to filter out the boring, nonsexual girls.. it’s all about you
i hope that made sense, but I think the method you describe probably has some of this stuff built in. this ‘screening’ stuff is the some of the only ‘MEN FIRST’ type of stuff
what do you think?
True, it’s funny how conscious “game” can actually ruin your chances because you invest so much time and energy in her. I lost one girlfriend because of that, if I would follow my gut feeling of just becoming mad and blaming her for her bad behaviour, I would be in the command of the relationship and it’d at least be healthier for me whether it’d end earlier or not. But I followed “game” rules instead, by trying to play aloof and taking responsibility for everything, even the bad things she did, like making “Winning her” a big thing. I’ve learned from it.
That’s a good point, I didn’t think of it that way. Yup, everything is a learning experience, or an opportunity for one.
Yeah things/the mindset will always be between “I think she likes me” and “I hope she likes me”.. no guy that has any balls thinks that way, but that’s the mindset the PU community pushes… I can’t think of why this is, other than most gurus haven’t been with a woman in 10+ years. haha
Lol, its called framing something cj talked about ages ago. She was screening you for a relationship, everything she did was consistent with that, that was incompatible with your game so it went nowhere.
very good story Chris. Right now my goal is to learn to become more aggressive with my escalation, I have gone past my fear of approach for the most part but I still am not where I want to be. Thanks for this website man
You got it MadDawg!! I welcome you to sign up on the forum too if you have time!
Scotty was going up to 60 women a day 7 days a week for 7. m.onths straight?!?! U gotta be f’n kidding. That guys a beast
i know right?? and he was getting laid a lot too… he’s in NYC so there literally 60 girls to talk to every second
Absolutely incredible stuff. Thank you. I’ve always been fearless when approaching women in my nightly conquest to get laid but never had the “get lost” mentality. I’d repetitively keep going after the undersexed girls thinking that if i kept at it, she’d eventually give in. Sometime it would work, but most times it wouldn’t. Ive been out two nights applying this screening stuff and am very pleased with the results and have two new girls that are not only cool, but are straight up DTF.
thanks man!!! same here man– when i was 19-23 I used to date girls that wouldn’t sleep with ANYONE.. had I screened before hand… I would have WASTED 4 fuckin months!!! you’re right sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.. its just take too much time
let us know how it goes for you moving forward… I’m always super interested in how guys do that read just the blog and go out and apply it